What should a marriage be?
First of all marriage is not about age, but it is about finding the right person to be in your life. So to keep your marriage brimming, with love in the wedding cup, whenever you’re wrong, admit it, and whenever you’re right you should shut up.
Happily ever after is what the couple are wishing with their wedding, but without their efforts to make it happen, there will be no wishes to come true but will only remain a wish or a dream.
There are many reasons why people have decided to marry, and one of it is to have a lifetime partner.
Once you married, the focus of your mind will stay in one place, and your life will start to have a direction because you already have another responsibility which is bigger than yourself.
When you were single, your only concern is yourself but when you married you have to consider that you’re not anymore one but two as one, in other words to be in a marriage relationship is not an easy task because you are dealing with another person which is your second you.
Your wife is already a part of you, that is the reason why her dignity is your dignity, her shame is also yours, her reputation is also yours, so you are sharing one honor and reputation being two who became one.
Marriage is not for fun, marriage is not trial and error, but marriage is a commitment, a lifetime commitment and responsibility, it is a total subjection, and a total surrender.
A big beautiful wedding is mostly assumed by a lot of people as not an ordinary matrimony, with all the bridesmaids, groomsmen, and a costly rings and a beautiful cake, young people are thinking of it to be the guarantee of a secured and a happily-ever-after ending.
I have witnessed a lot of expensive weddings attended by a lot of rich and influential people but just a year after, I heard they are annulling their marriages.
Sometimes we can’t understand what really is happening, of why they have decided that fast that supposed to be they were both making a vow to love each other for better of for worst.
What Does the bible say about marriage?
Hebrews 13:4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
Marriage is defined by others as the relationship in which one person is always right and the other is the husband!
So to keep a marriage stronger, even though you are right you don’t need anymore to prove it however, you have to admit that you are wrong.
This is really difficult to do but marriage life should be like that, you have to lower down your pride in order for your relationship to be harmonious.
So to value the beauty, perfection, and social approval, sometimes you need to accept that life is much less than perfect, than you had ever expected,
and you may be amazed at the ways in which you sacrifice your early expectations about your partner, and marriage as an institution- just to keep the relationship together.
It’s just normal for a relationship to have some fights, and it is allowed as strengthener of the relationship as long as it’s not involving physical contact.
In a relationship you should not hide your attitude, you have to show your full you at the very early stage of your life, so that it can be also corrected or accepted at the early stage of the relationship.
You have to show your best and your worst behavior, to your spouse and try to correct it to the best that you can because nobody likes it.
Marriage is a forever commitment, marriage is a total surrender whether you like that agreement or not.
Marriage also means that, for better or for worst in sickness and in health, no one should divide your united heart by God.
One of the reasons why you married is so that there is someone who will support you and love you through whatever challenges you may encounter in you relationship.
As couple you have to be in one mind, whatever you like should also be liked by your partner, learn to be supportive in all the activities of your spouse and be appreciative with whatever achievement he may have so that you can at least do a little moral support.
So marriage is about sharing everything including bed, kitchen, bathroom, and all those personal moments that will make you look sweeter and lovelier.
Marriage will also mean that in every challenge that you face, there is someone who takes it as personally as you do.
But remember, that you both are just human beings and not perfect, so be also ready to be considerate when your partner will sometimes fail to render his duties as spouse.
As a loving spouse you have to be the best partner as possible and try to be the best of all, and be loving and caring of each other and you will live happily as can be.
To whom should you marry?
You should make sure that you can see love for each other in the eye, be ready to accept on whatever weaknesses your spouse have.
There is something you didn’t know before and now you discovered which is sometimes not acceptable to you, but you should be willing to accept it in case it can’t be corrected.
Marriage is not for fun but a lifetime responsibility and commitment, so before getting into this matter make sure that you are ready to face all the possible challenge that may arise within your relationship.
You and your partner should be truly loving each other unconditionally, so that there will be no any possible reasons of breaking up when times get tough.
But the best one to marry is the one who is ready to suffer for any consequences that may happen as a result for loving each other.
To whom should you not marry?
Marriage requires a 100 percent consent and a 100 percent support from both partners, it’s needing the full acceptance, and a 100 percent respect for each other.
You will not be qualified for marriage if you are not ready yet to face the life of being married. You should already be able to live by yourself independently without any help from parents.
If you don’t have any house for your own at least you can afford to rent a house for you start a new family.
Some people they like to marry but they want to stay single at heart, and these kinds of people are not the one for marriage since they have the tendency to be an irresponsible spouse because they still take with them their single lives even though they are already married.
There are people who are still single at heart even though they’re already married. Living single is how they live as being married so they tend to be irresponsible because of not committing themselves to the proper obligations as married status.
Marriage mentally overvalues one particular relationship and undervalues a wide range of other relationships, some of which are relating to or believing in the principle that all people are equal and deserve equal rights and opportunities.
So if the person has a lot of things to consider and a lot of conditions to require before he will marry, so he doesn’t deserve on the particular status yet.
Matrimony is the most common term they use for marriage, and it is the cultural recognition as the union between two people, called the spouses, who establishes rights and obligations between them, as well as between their children and in-laws
The definition of marriage varies around the world, not only between cultures and between religions, but also throughout the history of any given culture and religion.
In some cultures, marriage is recommended or considered to be compulsory before pursuing any sexual activity.
When defined broadly, marriage is considered a cultural and universal. A marriage ceremony is also called a wedding.
I hope you have learnt something about this article, and if you have any questions or comments please write them below and I will be more than happy to hear it.
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