Why do relationships end, and why there is a lasting relationship? This is the common questions of most couple, that until now only few have known the answers, and saved their dying relationships.
Ephesians 5:28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.
Respect each other’s needs
One of the major reasons why a man or a woman is looking for a partner is because of its individual needs, if there are other reasons it’s maybe very few in a million. So if everybody knows how to provide all those needs there will be no break up, there will be no divorce.
A woman who is being courted by a man, can already be called a winner, because no man will waste his time to a woman if he doesn’t have a feeling.
You became one as husband and wife for the simple reasons that both of you are having the same feelings for each other.
On the first days until few months of the relationship husband and wife are very sweet, loving, and caring.
Nobody likes break up or divorce, and nobody is planning intentionally that he will marry a woman then after few months he will get divorced.
Everything started when the first sweet feeling is gone. If the husband and wife will together keep the flame of love divorce will never happen.
So one of the secrets of a lasting relationship is to keep the same way as the beginning. What everybody needs is care, love, and respect. So in a relationship both of you should provide all these and the chances of breaking up will be lesser.
Nobody can afford to leave if you have this quality. Why dogs are being loved?
that’s because they care, they showed that they’re so happy meeting us through wagging their tails, therefore a lot of people love them, even they’re doing nothing else than that. Human being can do more than that, in a relationship there should be give and take.
We should know how to read the feelings, how to know the weakness, and we should respect on that. In other words, you should know when to come close and when to go away.
Always implant in our minds that we are human being and not all the time we have the same mood, so if you see that your partner becomes different from usual, you should not bother, don’t ask why because you can never expect a good answer.
Wait for few hours or days, know the right timing or else it will only result for an argument. It is our responsibility as husband and wife to provide our earthly needs for each other.
So no matter how long you are together already, how old you are or maybe how many children do you have, your responsibility is still there not finished.
You are already sold, somebody already owns you, so you should prepare yourself because anytime you will be used by the owner. If you really love your partner you should be honest for each other in all ways.
Tell each other what you like and what you don’t like. If lazy to take shower tell, both of you go together, if having under arm odor buy some deodorant, and brush your teeth together.
It is even a part of God’s commandment to render an affection which is due to each other.
1 Corinthians 7:2-4 Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
Work on the relationship together.
If you want your relationship work, work on your relationship just simple as that. Working alone is not possible. Think of what you like most and do it for your partner and you are teaching him to do the same.
Most people have a loving heart they just don’t know how to demonstrate it. If you’re the first who realized it, initiate some action and it will all return to you.
So if both of you together will find ways to keep your relationship, of course you can make it, and a harmonious relationship can be guaranteed.
Communication is very vital in a relationship, whenever you are stuck of maybe some traffic or maybe some unexpected invitation of your friends or relatives, make sure the first one to know is your partner, grab the phone send the message and finish, you’ve done your part.
Or else, if you just keep it with you without knowing that some of her friends saw you together with other partner and then she will learn if from them, then it will become a big trouble even though you are not doing anything wrong but it can cause a big problem.
Give and receive love.
If you want to be loved be worthy of being loved. Divorce happened to a lot of couples because they stopped giving their love.
As long as you keep on loving heartily you can expect to be loved in return specially in a relationship. People who have the desire to build a family are mostly good-hearted. If you are able to keep a relationship for at least 2 years that’s already a big sign that you are destined for each other.
But some relationship was ended by just a non sense things, whenever you have an argument, let it be settled according to the source and never involve your innocent relationship.
Respect your togetherness, count how many years you are together since you met each other and respect that, do not let it be broken by just a day, that’s very unfair.
Seek to understand rather than to be understood.
The saying says, that to be happy with a man you must understand him a lot and love him a little. To be happy with a woman you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all.
There are really a time that we need to shut up, swallow our pride and accept that we are wrong, some people called it giving up but for me it is called growing up. Once you learn to have the role to understand and not to be understood that is a sure sign of maturity.
If both of you have that characteristic, with the help of God, I can assure you that you will live harmoniously with each other and you will grow old together.
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Until my next post soon, always remember that, “REAL LOVE BEGINS WHEN NOTHING IS EXPECTED IN RETURN.”
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