Choosing Partner In Marriage
Talking about the best wife or husbands will sound impossible because being just a human and not perfect we can’t assure to anyone that we couldn’t make mistakes.
However, there are many kinds of mistakes, and the worst one is the choosing partner in marriage. Once you make mistakes in choosing, you will have the only two options to choose, a spouse for life or a lesson for life.
Therefore, you should be so careful in deciding if who can be with you, to stand as partner that will stay with you forever.
There are many places where you can find a better clue about your chosen one. At church, at work, like your co- worker and some in social media, etc., but it is so important that you know what you are looking for and what to avoid.
If you already had experienced a relationship from the past, you can have already a guide on finding the best based on your experience on how you failed from your last.
Of course you’re not going to make the same mistakes again that’s the advantage from experience. Be very careful on your way of choosing, but the problem is, you will not know right away if the person you choose is really the best unless you have an experience in a relationship.
Don’t be in a hurry.
You’ve just met for few months and now you’re planning to be in a relationship and everything is okay. And because you feel already the flame of love, you’ve decided to choose a person which you hope he’s already the one destined for you.
In this situation you don’t need to be in a hurry with your decision, you need to give more time to know each other in order to make your feeling for each other stronger.
Spend some more time to get to know the person before rushing into a life -changing partnership. Best wines is rated by the longer it is aged the better will be the aromas and taste,
while in relationship, as getting longer if both partners have no knowledge in nurturing a relationship the taste of it will get sour and bitter
For partners you don’t need to necessarily be with similar style, everyone is unique of its own, the importance is that you understand you differences.
It is so normal that you will have different taste, different choice, and different point of views. Each of you will have its own strength and weaknesses, positivity and negativity.
In other words, you can’t find any perfectness from both of you, that’s why you need to understand that you both are human being and you are not perfect so both consideration are expected from each other.
You should not look for the wrong however, you will help in making your relationship stronger and tighter.
Even though you are opposite but if you are partners you can make that into one mind through being considerate for each other and start to change whatever difference you have until you both end up with perfect understanding of its differences.
The positive and negative complement each other, which helps make a battery powerful. Relationships are the same way, your strengths should complement your partner’s weaknesses and vice versa.
This will make for a powerful bond and a productive relationship.
Avoiding the deal breakers
In a relationship it is normal that deal breakers will take part and it should be avoided, maybe due to some vices which you are against of it, some of them are acceptable in other ways,
but these things are so important to you and will cause issues in the future. There will be recurring arguments and fights over these things, no matter how perfect the relationship is.
If you really find someone who is almost perfect it is possible but not guaranteed, because a person in the beginning you will not notice all his characteristics until, you stay with him for quite long.
Choose someone with sense of humor
Being humorous is one of the best character of a spouse to be, it is true that laughter is the best medicine, and the best relationship binder.
There are going to be some hard times in a relationship that if you are so serious it can cause some harm in both of your companionship, so it is then that humor and jokes should be applied now and then,
to ease some stressful or emotional difficulties. The best partner is the one that can make you laugh the whole day if not the whole day at least most of the day will be filled with laughter.
If you know how to make a person to laugh you can also make a person to be happy, and you can control them whom you can make happy.
Happiness can’t be bought with money, you need to create it by thinking something wonderful together with the great partner.
Be Mr. and Mrs, Right
If you are looking for a spouse to be in a fulfilling relationship, choose the one who is warm, considerate, cooperative and emotionally stable.
This is a little boring in the beginning, but it will become a little exciting, as the days go by, but just be careful, in the exciting times can also be a dangerous time for some ways.
If you want a long-lasting, productive and mutually beneficial relationship. Then, you need to look for the personality traits that will lead to that outcome.
The highly attractive but moody personalities might seem exciting and sexy until you have endured one of their violent mood swings.
Dangerous , exciting and unpredictable might be thrilling, but it is also emotionaly exhausting. You want someone who is going to fill your emotional glass not to drain it.
Look for the one who is friendly in nature and approachable in personality
In a relationship it’s so important that you always talk with your partner about important topics or whatever stories you can think of, as long as, it is all about strengthening your relationship.
The reason why everyone is looking for partners is so that they have someone to talk to for their lonely days. Talking is very important as ways to make you closer to each other,
so while talking you should be honest to each other about your feelings and about what you want in life.
To find the best partner is so difficult because before you can find out whether he is best or not you need to be partners first, but if you know how to make a partner the best, you can make him the best through your relationship.
There are a lot of people who do not know how to be the best but can be taught. People will learn from people, once you show you care, you are also teaching them to care,
so as long as you know the way and the characteristic of a good partner you can teach it, by showing as an example. You need to demonstrate your feelings you should not hide it,
every time a person is being treated well, he is also learning how to treat anyone well specially to his partner.
So now that you know how to choose the best partner, you can now be a good partner as well, you can now be a good teacher for the bad partner so surely your relationship will be lasting and harmonious.
I hope you learn something from this post, if you have any questions or comments feel free to write them below and I will be more than happy to help you out.
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This is such an important decision in life. It has become normal in this world to tolerate divorce. But that shows us how we have “evolved” to not esteem the things that are pillars in our life to devote more time to those that are secondary.
Being able to ponder things in a wise way is key before marriage. Most of the time we focus on things that are unimportant. And we don’t even know what’s important to check before we marry.
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