Author: Francisco Laurito

How to deal with problems in life?

How to deal with problems in life?

What is the most effective way so that all problems in life can be given a solution. Let’s be frank in telling the truth, and this is for me the right way of sharing my thoughts about things when it comes to sharing things specially when it’s about dealing with problems and stress.

I want to be frank so that I can express fully my experience then I can share the best that I can so that it can be benefited by those who would like to know how to handle problems in life.

Some people whose intention is just to please other people, they will not tell what exactly are the ways.

Sometimes instead of helping people, they have mislead others to the right way, to be frank is to be faithful.

Most of my article posted will always have a verse of the bible with it because this is my way of sharing things and almost all things in our life, there is something of it from the bible.

The bible is teaching us the straightforward truth sometimes it’s hurting sometimes not, through the ears of people.

For me problem should not need to be handled but to be overcome, stress is untouchable and cannot be handled.

What is the best way so that all problems in life can be solved.

I believed that problems in life cannot be avoided, there are many factors and circumstantial things that surrounds life that brings us different kinds of problems, physically, emotionally, economically, and mentally.

There are many problems that besets human life on earth now. Maybe the only people who have no problems on earth are just those first people on earth like Adam and Eve, they were in the garden of Eden and they don’t have any problems in there, until they disobeyed the commandment of God.

Maybe that is the only point of history that we could say that there were human beings that had no problems, but afterwards when they disobeyed, they started to experience a lot of problems in life, and that continued up to our times.

Problems are all unavoidable that is for sure, that is always there around, as long as we are alive we will meet some problems.

What is the most effective way so that this can be overcome including stress.

Stress is defined by dictionary as the feeling of worries nervousness and agitation, often about something that is going to happen.

Sometimes stress is defined as mental strained on a person because of the pressure of work, that is what is said in the human dictionary about the word stress, and this is related to the word problem, these are the pressures in life,

these are the things that is giving us some emotional imbalances, this sometimes cause high blood pressure or sometimes mental depression, which may lead to other diseases.

It is the combination of the two words “ease” and “dis” or dis ease meaning impairment of health, or a condition of abnormal functioning.

So the meaning of dis ease, is that when you are at ease then you have no problem, when that easiness is being troubled by something that bothers you, in your mind in your physical being, then you have a “dis ease” or a condition that is abnormal.

All of those are together. You know just like I have told you, problems can not be avoided. Sometimes you are only eating but still you find a problem in it, some while eating they got choked, while supposedly you will have no problem in eating and you must enjoy your food for you to nourish your body properly, but why just on eating we will have a problem?

Eating is the easiest and the most favorite of all but still we encounter problem from it, so how much more when it comes to working, work can be a source of many problems.

Specially if in work you have some people who are not keeping along well with you, so you will find pressure, problems, anxiety in work in that situations, Especially if the work you have is not exactly what you wanted to be, thereby, there is a wisdom in the saying that says,

“do what you love and love what you do.” If you love your work and if you work with love, that decreases problems, I grew up with work, I grew up in a hospitality industry, about service, I love to serve and I love what I am doing, so I don’t have any stress, there is no problem because I love what I am doing.

Most of my life was spent in hospitality industry and I didn’t have any stress and problems with it because I enjoyed what I am doing because I love it.

If we can’t avoid problems, we can’t also avoid the stress, but we can overcome it all. This was already been foretold by the scripture.

John 16:33These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you ^[f]will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.”

How can you have cheer when there is tribulation? Is it possible or attainable to be cheered while in tribulation. Let’s get some reference in the bible that it possible for us to cheer while in tribulation,

Romans 5:3 Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance;

So Christians are glorying tribulations also, and if you read the verse again it is mentioning that tribulation is teaching perseverance.

So the previous verse was right that we should be of good cheer while in tribulation. This means that during tribulation it is possible for us to have a cheer, happiness, or joy, why?

Because, we have seen what the tribulation can do to our lives which is producing perseverance and patience. In our lives we have to sometimes look what is beyond the horizons, we have to sometimes look farther what our normal eyes can see.

We should look what is far beyond. Do you know why? Because, if you look at what you can only see, you will not know what is in there beyond whether there are some good and bad fruits.

As we have known that problems are creating perseverance and patience according to the bible. The bible verse provided, will help us know how to overcome stress, problems, challenges in life.

We should put it in our mind that it is normal for us to encounter problems and it’s not a bad news however, it is a good news because problems are the ones who made us strong in facing life.

Every time we fall we learn something and if we are wise enough, all those wrongs that we did will lead us to correcting our own and striving to not to repeat such mistake again.

Because according to the bible, the tribulation or the problems, stress, challenges, are making perseverance and patience which is beneficial to us.

If we will not encounter problems then we will become careless, we will always be lenient, we will always be lax. If we are not encountering problem we will be just like a happy-go-lucky, you will not concentrate, you will not think, then you can’t be the best that you should be.

But if you encounter problems then afterwards you have solved it, then you become a better person, you can be a better person, because the tribulation has made on you a perseverance.

If we continue that verse to from 5:3 to 4 Romans 5:3 Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance;  4 and perseverance, character; and character, hope.

In verse 4 it say that perseverance, character; and character, hope. So we don’t need to take problems negatively. Why?

because, the problems can do something good in us. God has created us and he let everything happen to us. Why he allowed us to have problems, because as Christians who understand the gospel of God will gain something good in every problem he encountered.

So the best ways so that we can overcome stress or problems in life, we have to look at the good it can do to us. When you have a measles as long as there is no other complication there is no problem with it. Why? Because once you can have it your immune system will get stronger, because once you will have in later life it will be more difficult.

When you have measles or small pox during childhood you will not so much bothered with it, because you’re still a kid but when you have small pox at old age it is so painful, but when you had small pox during childhood you can have already an immunity against that virus, so as you are getting older and weaker you can already develop anti bodies as your protection from attacks of those viruses.

So the temporary problems that it brought had done some good to you for the future, if you just know how to look what is ahead of us.

Sometimes when we have diarrhea we thought that it’s all bad, but it is also a natural way of cleansing the linings of the intestine just make sure that you will not be dehydrated, drink a lot of water with a little sugar or salt or you need dextrose with it, but from diarrhea it is cleansing your whole intestines and removing toxins.

So we can see it that problem can do something good on the other ways. For example, you have problems in work then you have seen that this can do something good for you in the future, so most of the time problems will have a hidden benefits if you just know how to handle it.

Whenever there is problem just solve it, just face it and you will not lose anything, you will not lose hope, you should not lose your hope.

On the top of everything I just say it like this as the outlook of people. In the bible there is a secret on how to overcome the stress and problems in life, specially when we talk about work, there is something in the bible that really implying that problems would really come.

Let’s read this verse Philippians 4:6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;

So the verse is saying that there are a lot of things that can cause anxiety to the people, like food, clothing, job, relationship, your social standing, your community relationship, etc.

Too many ways that you can be anxious in life, but the biggest of it is in the family and work. But the verse said that, be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God.

So the best of all when problems arise, first is, we come near to the Lord, you believe there is God, those who said there is no God, they did not just use their mind, nobody can make the planets, stars when there is no God, we have to stick on the principle of science that nothing happens without a cause, nothing had happened without a reason, scientifically, physically, and same with spiritual, nothing will happen without a reason.

And the one who made is a loving God specially to us the human being. So if there are a problems about your job, sometimes you will encounter that there is somebody that don’t like you in your work area, relationship, family, and whatever it is that you think very heavy to carry.

The bible said: Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;

there is nothing that can compare when you comes to the God because, if you come to any human beings there is a big possibility that you will be disappointed, or sometimes humans are willing to help but they can’t also help you in solving your problems.

But coming to God, there is nothing that he can’t do because he is God. God said: “let your request be made known to God.”

Meaning, you pray. When problems will come the very first step to take as a Christian is to pray. When you pray all that made you anxious give them all to God, and that is the very secret, do you know why? Let’s read:

1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

So when the problem will come you pray and have faith surrender all your anxieties and believe that he can do something in your problem.

As human, we can experience care from parents, spouse, family, even from neighbors, there are neighbors that cares.

So for as the humans that we know how to care that nobody is telling us to do it, we have felt care to our loved ones, if you are a Christian your are a child of God, you know how to acknowledge God, and God has seen it that you are not a bad man, ask yourself, will God care for me?

Of course, because we sinful people know how to care how much more the God himself who created us will not care for us. That’s why the bible said, 1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

However, this is not applicable for all people, it’s only for those who have faith and who believed. According to the bible, you don’t need to be worried, handling stress and problem is just easy, first you pray, and this is the biblical admonition,

you pray then entrust to God all your worries and stress, tell God, Lord, I feel like I can’t handle this problem alone, I don’t have money to pay all my debts, please help me find the way to solve it, give all to God your anxiety because he cares for you.

Then you are eased with your problem, knowing that there is somebody who is powerful. He is big enough, he is much greater than your problems. God is bigger than all the problems of men. He is greater in all the greatest problems of humanity and he can solve them all.

God will attend to your problem. You might not believe but it’s all in the bible. 1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

Sometimes when we cross the roads there are times that there are things which we don’t see, suddenly there was a car passing by that you did not notice, but because God cares for you because before leaving the house you prayed, even though you did not see the car but the driver had seen you so he’s able to step the brake, God has awakened the driver for you.

God cared for you so nothing bad happened to you. All those had done by God in all areas of life specially in work, God sees all those who are devoted to work for their family, so God will take care of them while working.

If God will help you he is also helping your family. If God loves you and he also loves your family, if he cares for you he also care for your family.

What are the biggest problems that God can’t help you? That is the whole point in there. Therefore, if we only refer it all to the bible, we can feel the comfort on all our problems and stress.

For example, you have a co-worker who is not good to you, you pray to God. Lord, please open the heart of my colleague or my manager who is having a not good treatment to me, so you surrender them all to God.

Don’t retaliate if he is doing something wrong to you, leave it all to God, you even pray them to God, as God said:

Matthew 5:44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,

If you pray those who hate you to God, he will touch their hearts and those enemies of yours will sometimes become your best friends.

And I believe that there is no any problem that is so big for those who have faith in God. Faith can move mountain, so no matter how big is the problem all of them can be solved by our faith in God, let’s all rely on and hope that there is God, and that particular God is a caring God.

Hebrews 13:5 Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”

This is the assurance of God for those who have faith in him, as God said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” If God will say he will not forsake you that is for sure because God will never lie, and God can’t lie.

So until here is this article, I hope that you have learnt a thing about handling problems and stress in life. No matter how busy is your life, just don’t forget to pray, and give all to God your problems and stresses.

Busy life makes prayers harder, but prayers make a hard and busy life easier, so just keep on praying.

If you have any questions or maybe comments please feel free to write them below and I will be more than happy to help you out.

 

Francisco,

Founder of the Bookworm Website

Qualities Of A Good Parent.

There are many factors on how to possess the characteristics of a good parents, and how to become a responsible parents to their children, these are  some of the characteristics that is above all the rest of the parents.

The personality of parents will matter a lot in all aspects that will allow them to make a positive difference in their children.

In order for the parents to have a strong foundation of love, support and guidance, they should be committed to doing what is necessary to be done as a good parents to their children.

To be a good parent is a thing we are lacking today. People have different ideas about how it is to be parents.

A lot of them are trying to evade the responsibility they should have for their children, and that causes a lot of psychological effects to the children who are almost being abandoned because of parents who don’t care so much for their children.

This is causing a big effect to the behavior of kids, to their school performance, and it becomes the hindrance for their success, and those who suffer at the end, are those kids who were not being properly taken cared by irresponsible parents.

Strong parenting is very important, so if you plan to be some of those great parents who have the potential and desire to cultivate the best example of traits within the family.

So you need to have a look at some characteristic of a good parent.

They are affectionate:

Most children’s wish for their parents are the time and care that they should show to prove their love for their children.

In many parents what they commonly lack is their emotional intelligence or EQ, this is the most important thing to be learnt by parents but unfortunately nobody is teaching.

But as long as parents have the consistent effort to show their genuine affection and love towards children, they will automatically show their proper care and love for each other as well as to their children.

Children who have been experiencing love and care from parents, they mostly perform very well in school, they develop empathy, and have not learnt any bad behaviors.

These children will look happier, and feel safer being loved unconditionally by the most important people in their lives which are their parents.

The couples themselves will also feel the greatness of having a good relationship with children and benefiting a harmonious relationship together.

Patience is very vital for parents

It is not unusual for parents to encounter some challenges within the relationship, from children and even from themselves.

There is a test, and they need to do things which is in both ways on being noble and lowly.

And they need to overcome it all without giving up.

The reality is that parenting is not a joke, as a matter of fact, you will find it more difficult once you don’t know how to deal with it.

Some children will demand boundaries from the time they say “no” some partners tend to disagree with major life choices or they just make their own mistakes.

But what breaks parents more than anything is the lack of patience with themselves.

Many people are placing a title for themselves as parents, but they feel not being worthy for the title, and this is because of many reasons, and that they feel the need to learn more about managing a family, and their capacity to manage is inadequate.

The result will always be the same, no matter how they do it, parents with a so much lack of patience will normally abandon their families.

But parents who practice patience at home have stayed home, and have earned respect from each other and most specially from children.

They are Moral

The best attribute of parents is the deep sense of grounded morality.

Parents’ decision should be rooted on something greater than themselves, they will always look for something higher.

They are selfless. They know the difference between good and evil, and can quickly navigate the necessary adjustment between them.

Every time when temptation arises they will be guided by the sense of morality.

The real moral person will know what to do in each of these situations, and there will be no doubt as to which is the correct path.

Inevitably temptation will always be there. Even though where just human, by just having a strong moral compass that does not bend or break helps make a man the best parent he can be.

They are Open-Minded

Some people have a wrong idea about what parenting really is. They are thinking that it’s about controlling, they think it is about power or dominance or strength.

They think it’s about imposing upon their family their own single-minded vision of what should and should not be.

Those who are open-minded will accept that their family members are a diverse bunch, and admire the differences between them.

They are all teachable and rather than rejecting the difference in their family, and they learn it happily from them.

If their children will choose for example the course which they like to take, even though it is not on their preference, they are still able to show their full support and to encourage them to follow their dreams

This doesn’t mean that he isn’t rational that he makes poor leadership decisions. This simply means that he is open to the new, to the different, to possibility.

The parents who are open-minded will allow their family as long as it is a safe place in which they can explore their dreams, desires, and personalities, and for them to utilize their full themselves.

Parents who have these kinds of traits can benefit a truly wonderful happy and harmonious home.

Parents are showing loyalty with each other:

It’s called the best parents who are loyal for each other, and such sort of traits will keep the family together in the hardest of times.

Loyal parents is one that can be trusted to be there today, tomorrow, and forever.

The ability to commit a step forward from mere patience, loyalty is the ability to consistently stick by your choice, no matter what the cost is.

And when they decide to become a responsible parents, the strong sense of loyalty can become vital.

This doesn’t imply as just a physical parents who stay with their family, being loyal will mean much more than that.

Parents will always be there it the family when others attack them or when life events lay them low.

This means being there for them, is to keep your commitment to ensuring the welfare of your children and the full support and protection to them.

Loyal parents to their kids don’t put other recreation or friendship as more important than their families.

Family is put as the top among all priorities, and this result for a very strong household that will not break beneath even through the strongest storm of life.

They are Honest

honesty is the best policy, this is the very popular saying but this is also the best quality of the honorable parents

the relationship between husband and wife is built on trust. Which means that parents, as well as of those between parents and children. Honesty will create a sense of safety.

When all members of the family can depend on their parents, they know that they can go to them for anything, and that they can trust them to do what they say to be done.

Being dishonest is one of the banes of closeness in a relationship, you can’t develop an intimate companionship with someone who misrepresents themselves.

So there is no better than honesty in all aspects and it encourages strong familiar bonds.

When it comes to honesty, it’s not only meant telling the truth. It’s also about keeping promises. If you say you’re going to be at your son’s recital. Be there.

If you promise anything to your family make sure you will keep it. Because in this way your family will know that you can be depended upon with all your words and this is the most valuable trait of a responsible parent to their children.

They are leading as the best example

Last of all, one of the most-needed traits of any parent is the ability to lead by example.

Parent is the best model to their children, that’s why it is so important that they should make sure that they act on the way where they can lead as the best example so that children will learn the right way of treating their own family when the time will come for them to have their own.

Whatever things they know which is good should be put to action, specially when it means loving, honesty, loyalty, open-mindedness, moral, and being patient. Nobody is perfect, but if parents will be able to act on those ways,

they are like implanting all of those words to the minds of their children, and one day they will also do it to their own kids.

To be the good example provides what every good parents should be but a role model.

If parents will consistently make harmful choices, their children may take the same path, and through them, will negatively affect their behavior to the society.

But if parents will start to make the right choices, and if they begin modeling good behavior and the wonderful effects will create and put goodness out into the world.

And the whole family will be happier and more stable beneath the parents’ guidance.

A Good parents:

A good parents are the most wonderful traits a couple should have, and this is the potential of becoming the best parents. If you wish to be the best parents, you have to be on this kind of traits.

You have to practice them, you have to work on them until they can be displayed to the children consistently and meaningfully.

There are just very few of them existing in the world, the parents who possessed such amazing qualities, that children are so proud of and will become as the model for them once they will have their own family by themselves.

Parents who are loving each other are also loving their children specially if they are living in accordance with the will of God.

There will be peace and love provided by God for parents who are entrusting their life to God.

And children who have this kind of parent are the most luckiest children in the world, because they will surely love them and they will surely let them grow in the discipline recommended by God.

Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

I hope you have learnt something from this article, and if you have any questions or comments please write them below and i will be more than happy to help you out.

Francisco

Founder of the Bookworm Website

What are the 3 kinds of love in the bible?

Love is authored by God and we learn to love because he first loved us.

1 John 4:19 We love Him because He first loved us.

So we will be considered not knowing God if we don’t love because God is love.

1John 4:8 He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.

What is love?

Love is basically defined by most people as the intense feeling of deep affection, which consist commonly of fondness, tenderness, warmth, intimacy, attachment, etc.

It is also defined as A mix of emotions, behaviors, and beliefs associated with strong feelings of affection, protectiveness, warmth, and respect for another person. Love can also be used to apply to non-human animals, to principles, and to religious beliefs.

What are the kinds of love?

Even though we know a lot of definition of love, but we don’t know if what are really the kinds of love.

Why the bible is saying that if we don’t have love we are nothing

1 Corinthians 13:2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.

So we have to discuss one by one about the kinds of love.

There are three known kinds of love:

1. Eros, pronounced as AIR-ose.
2. Philia pronounced as filia.
3. Agape pronounced as just agape.

What is Eros love?

Eros love is an Ancient Greek which means “love” or “desire.” This kind of love is more on physical, sensual intimacy between a husband and a wife, this is commonly expressing sexual, romantic attraction.

For young people love have normally started with “Eros” and if this love will not go on forward to the next level of love it normally can’t last for long. “Eros” love is so particular about beauty and physical attraction.

In the very beginning of the relationship this is the kind of love that lovers, boyfriends or girlfriends, husbands and wives are using as initial love, and which is also termed as erotic love.

If the partners feelings are only till “Eros” they can’t last it for life because of their love which due only physical attraction.

But most of the “Eros” will go on further for the next level of love thereby, still plenty have made it for a lifelong relationship.

Ecclesiastes 7:28 Which my soul still seeks but I cannot find: One man among a thousand I have found, But a woman among all these I have not found.

This is the kind of love that King Solomon was feeling for having able to have more than wives on his era.

Song of Solomon 2:5 Stay me with flagons, comfort me with apples: for I am sick of love.

What is “Philia” love?

Philia love is an Ancient Greek, often translated as “brotherly love”. Meaning the love of your brothers and sisters in the flesh and the love of your relatives.

“Philia” is very common, because this is the most widely used love for people who have a feeling of love without any physical attraction but only a feeling of respect towards the brothers, sisters, friends and relatives.

The pity and respect you have for your brothers or sisters, friends and relatives, they are all just in the form of “philia” love, and it doesn’t need to be interpreted as other kinds of feelings.

John 13:34-35 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”

What is “Agape” love?

Agape is an Ancient Greek, and is a Greco-Christian term referring to love, and this is called the highest form of love, and this is the love that man used for God, and God used for mankind.

Agape love is many times used in the bible which refers to us as a pure love, willful love, sacrificial love, and unconditional love.

It was during the era of Christianity when Agape was taught to the people through the teachings of Jesus Christ in the new testament bible.

Parents to a child are using this kind of love, and children to parents, this is the highest form of love which also called a religious love, which is having no other intention but for the good of the one who is loved.

A relationship who stayed in an “Eros” love they can’t last for life because “Eros” love is mostly attracted by beauty and after few months when there are changes in it, or when they find someone new,

this sort of love will start to fade, because of the new beauty that they are excited about.

An “Eros” love is only the beginning, but it can be developed to a higher level of love depending on the lovers. Every human beings have all the three kinds in them,

and once they are taken cared and shown a love they will automatically apply it to their relationships.

A complete love is the that possessed all the three kinds of love: Eros, Philia, and Agape.

Eros love will get fade as the partners are getting older, once they reached to a certain age they tend to feel another feelings of love like brothers or sisters and that is the one that we called “Philia” a friendly or relatives love.

So with these feelings, the relationship will still go on, surviving with the friendly and relatives love.

So there is nothing that can compare if you have all the three kinds of love, because with “Agape” the highest form of love or a religious love,

it is impossible for you to leave and hurt your partner because your are loving them with a love that is taught in the bible.

So most couple who were able to be together until they grow old, they are with the combination of all those three kinds of love, “Eros, Philia, and Agape.”

Agape love is a spiritual love

1 Corinthians 13:4-6 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;

5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;

6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;

This the Agape love introduced by the bible which is the kind of love that we will use from here up to the hereafter.

Couples who have learnt the love that is the combination of the three loves could surely be able to love up to a lifetime, because couples will be enjoying their love for all the times in their relationship,

from younger days, from middle-aged days, and until the old aged days, their relationship will be full of love and affections. Loving one another is a form of holiness in the sight of God.

therefore, the couple will be having a bigger chances of being worthy to be going to the kingdom of God in heaven, by just loving each other for the rest of their lives.

I hope you learn something from this article, and if you have any questions or comments please feel free to write them below, and I will be more than happy to help you out.

Francisco,

Founder of the Bookworm Website

Can the first time lovers be forever?

No matter how many of them you love, there is always a special place for true love in your heart.

And making love the first time doesn’t mean that it is your forever.

Why for many of them who offer you their love, you can only find one as the best that you consider as real love. The one special love is the only pure and real one, which you can’t imagine how and why you feel that way. Thereby, a question will come to your mind asking, “ what is the mystery of love?” why and how come we missed whenever we don’t see them and we feel an inexpressible feeling whenever the one we love is around.

Lovers unforgettable experience in a relationship is always the very first hugs, kisses, romance, the sweet talks together, and all the romantic experience, will always linger in the minds, and made you think of the person almost all the time.

First time is always the sweetest experience ever:

For anyone who experience first time, has thought that there is no better experience that can compare the feelings they have, and it happens because experiencing intimacy for the first time will be instilled in the memory and can never be forgotten.

A simple act of holding hands, is already making your thoughts fly up the sky, and this normally is being felt for the first time, to the first love or the first crushes. There is a different kind of feelings which you have not experienced before which you can’t explain how is it, that you feel unusual coldness and hotness of your body accompanied with goose flesh. Only those who are in love can understand what this is.

It is the most pure love you can ever imagined.

One of the main reasons why your first experience is the hardest to forget, because it is the one that made you realize that there is really a true love and that’s how you feel in the very beginning. People don’t expect to fall in love, it is the love itself that made the person to feel it, and he just realize he’s already in love in the blink of an eye. Due to the strong attraction created by the mind and form into an emotion stores in the heart and became true love.

First timer lovers in the beginning are not thinking of any malicious behavior, for them the whole world seems all beautiful, and the beauty of lie became perfect. You seem can’t sleep because of thinking that reality is better than dreams.

The wonderful feelings as first time in love can never be compared, you feel like there is nothing like this that will ever happen to our life again. So for the lovers this is the most special thing that nothing can compare.

Some people called it first love, when they feel the comfort of exposing all their insecurities, and it is mostly enjoyed.

The feeling of comfortability towards the person and not being able to think of whatever will happen after:

Being first time in a relationship first timer in love are not feeling any shame about sharing their insecurities which the partner has not thinking about. The partner is feeling afraid about what will happen to them if they can bear the pain if in case their relationship fails. That’s why it’s normal that jealousy will always be so strong for the first timer in love and relationship.

As first timers the woman or a man can be so jealous and possessive, because both of them are thinking that there is no other love better than what they have.

It’s the thinking that love is forever that lovers have put all their trust, hope, and dreams.

First time lovers have fallen in love without any limitation and assumptions because they have never felt this way before. All what they have in their mind is the faith that they are for each other and they can be forever. This strong faith is helping you to believe that love will always find away when time will come that challenges will happen in the relationship.

This is the only moment of your life that you believe there is a perfect love.

First relationship is believed to be perfect, and you thought that your love has only one language, which is craving for only one heart, and nobody else can replace it in your heart. Due to this kind of feelings, the sense of perfectness creates memories that are hard to forget. Even until you grow old, no matter what happens, you will always long for the perfectness of your relationship.

If ever something wrong will happen in your relationship, you feel like so disheartened of thinking that there will be no other love like this again.

It is the feeling of intense excitement and happiness and turn it to be so emotional.

The excitement and the feeling of love for the first time is the one that will engrave all the sweet memories in your mind in the beginning up to forever. On the other side your first feeling of love is also extremely emotional and intense.

The high and lows of the extreme emotional feelings of love, so it is like a once in a lifetime experience that there is no more chance to be repeated. Therefore, your first love is considered to be the most powerful and great. So the feelings with this kind of relationship is without other responsibilities to be taken cared of.

There is nothing that can compare the “first.”

It is first and true love when you let go and take a dive into the unknown. It is like the memories of all other “first” in your life, except that this one is much stronger.

Think of any experience that is so wonderful that you can’t almost forget and this kind of feelings is the experience that will multiply into thousands of times. Therefore, you feel like such feelings have no comparison and can never be forgotten.

There are no other responsibilities to be thought of other than a carefree first time love.

Normally first love will occur at the very young age. This carefree time was probably when you were a budding teenager, fresh into a relationship with your crush. You had no other responsibilities except to do well in class, which gave you all the time in the world to immerse yourself in your love. Basically, your first love was your full-time job.

As you grow older, your life is burdened with many new responsibilities, year after year. You may never get to experience the absolute and carefree experience of falling in love and enjoying each and every moment of it without having other responsibilities lingering over your head.

This is why the memories of your first love will remain on your mind for the rest of your life—you’ll never have such a carefree state of mind again.

Your first heartbreak feels very surprising.

There is no other painful feeling other than the heartbreak felt from your first time love and relationship. Being your heart broken on the first time is like you are losing all your hope, because you have given all your trust, love, hope, and everything to your first love. It is the most hurting, emotional, heart-breaking and sometimes life threatening.

So why this happened that it feels like it’s the end of the world of the first time lovers:

Because it is the very first time that you are experiencing a broken heart. So naturally there is a painful sense of regret, and the false hope that everything will be okay.

The memory of your first love is very painful and with too much regret.

Once that it happened for you to experience breaking up a relationship with your first love, that is also then that you can realize that if you only knew that this is what will happen, you must not have been putting all yourself to someone so that you will not feel the pain.

Peaking your level of happiness will weaken your sense of judgment and make it hard to draw boundaries. Sometimes it will make you do some stupid things, including committing too early, putting your hopes into one person, getting intimate even if you are not sure, and more.

After first love is falling apart, all things became a burden of regret, saying that why did I trust him with all my heart? Why didn’t I see that he was cheating me?

The word “first love” have two meanings, one is your first boyfriend or girlfriend, whether there is love or without. The second meaning of “first love” is, when you first feel the real love to the person, it can be first, second, third, and so on and so forth. To feel a real love, but your relationship is not successful, it’s so painful to feel, and it’s only those who fell in love could understand it. therefore, it’s not really easy to forget, but for sure you will still learn to love again, although the pain of your first love is unforgettable but later once you learn to love again, you will still remember your first love but there will be no more pain. So whatever will happen, you don’t need to lose your hope, sometimes life is really like that. There are things that we can’t sometimes understand that we did everything for your relationship to work but still you failed. There is always a reason for everything, and most of its reason is for your own good, where you can only understand later in life. So if you happened to be in love and you were hurt, you don’t need to worry, it’s not yet the end of your world, there is still a very bright future waiting ahead.

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Francisco,

Founder of Bookworm Website

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To have a friend is to be a friend

To have a friend be a friend.

There is a variety of signs which you can find out below to apply for yourself as a valuable guide for FRIENDSHIP. There is really a fake and a real friend, so be careful who you trust and tell your problems to, because all who smiles at you is not your friend.

Thereby, for you to have an idea about it, and so that you can be guided accordingly on what to do in order for you to be called good friend.

It is always based in our actions and the kind of word that we have spoken from our mouths that is needed to be taken a close consideration in order for a friend to not to be called a bad friend. We have to be cautious always of our self, we have to be careful of what we are saying through connecting our mouth to our brain before we engage in talking.

Evaluate yourself for you might be already a terrible friend and not just realizing it, so what’s out for your every move specially to your friends and when dealing with people around you.

Probably some of you are starting to be excited on how it is when we say about good friend and bad friend, if you know how to differentiate it, you can also be able to notice it and therefore, you have the capability to avoid it if you want to.

Whenever we are with friends we are sometimes just so insensitive about what we are saying, because it’s friend that is around, we tend to rely on and forget that due to carelessness in talking we have already mentioned some words not necessary to be said because it is hurting.

However, such level of comfort can be a good thing, but at the same time a lot of ugliness can start leaking out. It could always be a reflection of the person you really are.

 

You may be a bad friend in some ways if:

By showing a negative quality towards them, and by assuming that because you think a certain way, your friends and others do too. If you are fond of talking about others behind their backs then you’d assume everyone else does the same, and you will start blaming others and talk about how they went and did something even though they never did.

It’s a disgusting thing which is so noticeable from friend specially those who are so sensitive in talking. So be very careful try to avoid talking with other people when you are talking with friends because they said that those who gossip about others will also gossip about you, so never make it a habit of having other people as the topic of your conversation, because it is not your business and so that you will not be judged as gossiper.

Never start criticizing or blaming others for everything. Don’t be defensive, don’t think that you will never be mistaken, and it’s not your fault, and you are always right. We are human being and liable to err.

Don’t think that if It’s wrong it is because only of them, and you start showing different moves to let them know, even not in verbal ways but by your action you are talking about your comment on the situation based on your assumptions, and gradually you start to lose some valuable friends.

Don’t be with them only during the time when you need them, but in all circumstances you should find time, to reach them and show your concerns as a good friend.

Or else later if your friend doesn’t like you anymore, because of your ways that implying to be not a good friend, you will start receiving response from your call or message like, “ why did you call?” “how come you send message this time?” instead of saying, “it’s nice that you called up, I was missing you, how are you now?” or “it’s nice that you called up, I was looking for you?

These are the best answer that a real friend should do whenever they receive calls or messages, and friends who answers in this way are definitely good friends and very well knowledgeable about how to be a good friend.

You should be cooperative with all the activities your friends are engaging. You should not evade any responsibility, and you just leave them all for them to handle it, this is very much bad way as a friend.

When there is work to be done be responsible for it and try ask a share as your load in order to be a part of it rather than avoiding in taking part and be an irresponsible and not a caring friend.

Teamwork is very important, offer yourself what you can share not that you will only demand a share, you will be so selfish if that’s the way.

So for happiness and hardship you should be around always, not that during happiness you are there, and during hardship you can’t be seen. And then if this is the way, you will start noticing some friends avoiding you, some friends will become disinterested in you, some friends will not willing to help you when you’re in need.

Be considerate about your friends feeling, in friendship it requires a lot of give and take. Every word that we speak in front of friends there is a meaning of it, so be always conscious that you are dealing with friends who are only human beings and also have emotions like you,

that whatever you feel you like that is the same with your friends they also wanted the same things, meaning whatever you think that can make you happy is the same things that your friends are looking for.

Never disregard a friend, always be a caring friend, and then you will notice that most of your friends will also care for you, because whatever you do good to your friends will normally come back to you.

Never make any negative comments in front of friends because you don’t know how they care for your other friends. Every time you have something to say to the others, it will always reflect on your personality.

Friends are very sensitive on things, they counted every word they heard although it’s not a good way, but this is the reality and not a good way for a friend to have it as way of thinking things.

Therefore, to be a good friend is not an easy thing, however, very difficult thing because every small mistake you make will become a big thing because friends are expecting always from you as a supporter not a commenter.

A good friend is happy to see when a friend is happy, if a friend is enjoying in singing, no matter how it is sang whether nice or bad, you should be happy for your friend not that you will have other comment which is not good to be heard, even if you don’t comment in front, but soon it can surely be known and will cause disappointment in you.

Their opinions mean nothing to you and it’s usually drowned out by your own stories. You fight for time to speak and when they are talking you’re usually tapping your feet impatiently for your turn to talk. Oh and they know when you’re pretending to listen.

Tossing in a question to make it seem like you care is insincere. What’s worse is when you ask them something only to interrupt them mid-answer so you can start talking.

 

These are the characteristic of a good friend

Be punctual in any appointments. When you feel like something is wrong, be honest if you have something to say or anything which you don’t understand. Make sure they’re okay with you.

It’s easy to go overboard, but when tactful it can mean the world to them when you show you’re concerned. Send them a text, a phone call (even better,) or surprise them by showing up at their front door.

Make an excuse to spend time with them. It just means showing you want them to be okay. Unfortunately, there’s no universal method to being caring without being too pushy. Instead, you’ve got to figure out what works best and adjust as needed.

Some people are very good at hiding their negative emotions. Hopefully you’ve learned when they’re wearing a mask. Masks get heavy when you wear them for so long and sometimes you forget how to take it off.

I used to put on a brave face when I was going through rough times. It sucked but having good friends around who knew when I wasn’t really okay helped a lot.

There is always a proper way of showing your mood. Know when to be serious and when to show you are humorous. When it’s time to be serious, you also be serious as respect for your other friends.

No cheap attempt at being funny to avoid the real issues. You may argue from time to time and that’s alright. It’s natural, be mature and aim at finding common ground instead of trying to divert the attention elsewhere.

There are times to be messing around, but it gets tiring for others if you don’t know how or when to turn it off. If you can’t, then how can others trust you enough to share important things with you?

 

Your best efforts is so important in friendship. When they ask for your opinion or help on something that means something. It means they value what you think. If someone hands you an essay asking for you to help proofread or revise it then go the extra mile.

This means never half-ass things when it comes to your friends. These are your friends we’re talking about here. It’s a committed relationship and it sucks when the other person doesn’t put in effort to help when needed.

Show your best concern on them and never give up. Be there for them in their darkest hours. Going hand in hand with the first point, you don’t give up.

If they’re going through really difficult times then they may begin to close themselves off from you and your other friends. They’d say no to going out and hide from the world.

This annoys some people and eventually they give up, but good friends keep trying. Sure, it sucks to be the one trying to pull a friend out of rough times and it does get difficult to not throw my hands up in the air with frustration, but damn it, I know they’re not going to be able to get out on their own.

Show them you welcome and support all that they want. This means you listen to everything they say intently. You show you like being around them.

Sometimes even say it outright. “You’re an awesome friend,” “It’s not as fun when you’re not there,” or “I like hanging out with you, you know?” You should be comfortable enough together to be blunt about it without feeling weird.

Insecurity kicks in even when it shouldn’t. It doesn’t take a lot to show you care and re-assure them from time to time.

 

Be always there to care for them, and remind them that you’re friends for life by making sure they know you’ll always be there. This means keeping in touch or being there to cheer them up when they’ve got it rough.

If you’ve never told your closest friends this then make sure you do next time your friends tell you about a problem they’re hung up on.

Be considerate and pay respect on their privacy and boundaries, Know that you don’t have to be together 24/7. I need my space to recharge and I don’t always feel like hanging out with others.

That doesn’t mean I don’t like them. Good friends aren’t pushy and don’t get upset because of an occasional “no.” In fact, good friends know how to pick up right where they left off no matter how long it’s been since they last saw each other.

Don’t be defensive and be honest and constructive. There’s a difference between being conscious of their feelings and letting them ruin themselves in the long-run.

If they’ve developed a bad habit then kindly point it out and show you’re concerned. They’re picking up smoking? You care about their lungs. Drinking too much? Let them know you’ve noticed.

For less serious examples, imagine their breath smells and they’re going on a date. Do you want them to crash and burn later or would you rather let them suffer an ego hit, fix their act, and get out there in full confidence?

Or if their apartment is a mess then you can crack a joke about them needing to research minimalist living. If you feel like criticisms are harsh, offer them tips on how to improve.

Be proud of your friends and don’t hesitate to introduce to your family or relatives or to other people you know, let your friend fell that they’re not out of place. Your social circle might be tightly-knit, but there’s always room for expansion.

Introduce them to people they don’t know just to show you’re not afraid of being seen with them. Remember, you want to be proud of being in public with them. It’s up to them to decide if they want to start hanging out with these new people in the long-run. In fact, it doesn’t even matter if they do. Fun is what you’re aiming for here.

Be there for their hard time as well, not all time they are happy during their loneliness you should be there to show your sympathy. We all get in unexpected trouble and it’s good to know people who would jump to your rescue.

This is the best time to prove your real love to your friends when in hard time you are as a big help and support. It’s a great feelings being surrounded with friends. Heavy things will become lighter with just the simple presence of a friend.

We all have our own likes and dislikes and this must be accepted and respected as a good friend. This doesn’t mean avoiding subjects that are important and possibly life-changing.

I’m talking about bringing up things that serve no constructive purpose but to annoy them or to just fill the silence. Which brings me to my next point…

Don’t promise when you can’t keep it. When you say you’ll do something, be a person that sticks to your word. That means being punctual, not going back on your promises, and ensuring that you’re viewed as a reliable friend. Being unreliable will make your friends think twice before asking you for something.

Be a forgiving friend and always keep in mind that a friend is not perfect. It takes a lot to admit you did something wrong. Don’t be afraid of admitting to your friends that you messed up.

It happens to the best of us. Someone who can swallow his or her pride and admit they’re in the wrong is a great friend. It’s not cowardice to swallow pride, it means maturity, because we really need to show we care and value your friendship to the most.

Show that you’re so happy to have them as friend. We all get too caught up in our own lives and forget how to show appreciation. Sure, we know we care, but it’s difficult for the other person to know you, if you don’t show it.

It’s easy to tell when someone is dishonest. “Wow, I’m so happy for you,” with a non-eager face isn’t very convincing. Be invested in their successes and show in your facial expressions that you really are happy.

Show that you appreciate through your facial expression and gestures. It can be as simple as buying them something you thought they might like.

Giving small unexpected gifts is a big thing for a friend and a real giving is not to expect a return because not all friends have the capability of giving and by giving if a friend has something to share, you are at the same way also teaching them to give.

Be Always around for your support. It’s not a good feeling to be turned down by your friends. Sometimes life gets in the way and that’s okay. After all, remember the point about boundaries. However, I know how easy it is to say no. It becomes habitual.

It’s just so easy when you’re “not feeling it.” Make it a point to say yes more often to your friends when you can. You’re not that busy. Unless you’re absolutely certain there is no possibility of making room for your friends, you have no reason to have no time for your friends.

It’s easy to convince yourself you’re too busy. Don’t buy into your own stories. Always make time for them because it’s easy to drift apart.

Constant communication is so vital for friends. Life goes on and everyone has their own thing to do. Sure, picking up where you left off may be easy for you, but it’s just as easy to completely lose contact.

It takes effort, especially when there’s a lot of physical distance, to maintain a good friendship. It’s a relationship that takes both sides to work. To be a friend is also a big commitment because it’s a relationship equivalent as family.

Some friends are closes than relatives, caring for each other more than brother or sisters, and if you are this kind of friend you are like having a family that is with you all the time, in whatever will happen.

You should not make friends before understanding and don’t break friendship after misunderstanding, always remember that friendship is not a big thing, but it is a million little things. Thereby the saying says, “there is a small ship and there is a big ship but the best ship is FRIENDSHIP.

I hope you have learned something from this article, and if you have any questions and comments of maybe some suggestions feel free to write them below and I will be more than happy to help you out.

Francisco

Founder of Bookworm Website

Choosing Partner In Marriage

Talking about the best wife or husbands will sound impossible because being just a human and not perfect we can’t assure to anyone that we couldn’t make mistakes.

However, there are many kinds of mistakes, and the worst one is the choosing partner in marriage. Once you make mistakes in choosing, you will have the only two options to choose, a spouse for life or a lesson for life.

Therefore, you should be so careful in deciding if who can be with you, to stand as partner that will stay with you forever.

There are many places where you can find a better clue about your chosen one. At church, at work, like your co- worker and some in social media, etc., but it is so important that you know what you are looking for and what to avoid.

If you already had experienced a relationship from the past, you can have already a guide on finding the best based on your experience on how you failed from your last.

Of course you’re not going to make the same mistakes again that’s the advantage from experience. Be very careful on your way of choosing, but the problem is, you will not know right away if the person you choose is really the best unless you have an experience in a relationship.

 

Don’t be in a hurry.

You’ve just met for few months and now you’re planning to be in a relationship and everything is okay. And because you feel already the flame of love, you’ve decided to choose a person which you hope he’s already the one destined for you.

In this situation you don’t need to be in a hurry with your decision, you need to give more time to know each other in order to make your feeling for each other stronger.

Spend some more time to get to know the person before rushing into a life -changing partnership. Best wines is rated by the longer it is aged the better will be the aromas and taste,

while in relationship, as getting longer if both partners have no knowledge in nurturing a relationship the taste of it will get sour and bitter

 

Personalities

For partners you don’t need to necessarily be with similar style, everyone is unique of its own, the importance is that you understand you differences.

It is so normal that you will have different taste, different choice, and different point of views. Each of you will have its own strength and weaknesses, positivity and negativity.

In other words, you can’t find any perfectness from both of you, that’s why you need to understand that you both are human being and you are not perfect so both consideration are expected from each other.

You should not look for the wrong however, you will help in making your relationship stronger and tighter.

Even though you are opposite but if you are partners you can make that into one mind through being considerate for each other and start to change whatever difference you have until you both end up with perfect understanding of its differences.

The positive and negative complement each other, which helps make a battery powerful. Relationships are the same way, your strengths should complement your partner’s weaknesses and vice versa.

This will make for a powerful bond and a productive relationship.

Avoiding the deal breakers

In a relationship it is normal that deal breakers will take part and it should be avoided, maybe due to some vices which you are against of it, some of them are acceptable in other ways,

but these things are so important to you and will cause issues in the future. There will be recurring arguments and fights over these things, no matter how perfect the relationship is.

If you really find someone who is almost perfect it is possible but not guaranteed, because a person in the beginning you will not notice all his characteristics until, you stay with him for quite long.

Choose someone with sense of humor

Being humorous is one of the best character of a spouse to be, it is true that laughter is the best medicine, and the best relationship binder.

There are going to be some hard times in a relationship that if you are so serious it can cause some harm in both of your companionship, so it is then that humor and jokes should be applied now and then,

to ease some stressful or emotional difficulties. The best partner is the one that can make you laugh the whole day if not the whole day at least most of the day will be filled with laughter.

If you know how to make a person to laugh you can also make a person to be happy, and you can control them whom you can make happy.

Happiness can’t be bought with money, you need to create it by thinking something wonderful together with the great partner.

Be Mr. and Mrs, Right

If you are looking for a spouse to be in a fulfilling relationship, choose the one who is warm, considerate, cooperative and emotionally stable.

This is a little boring in the beginning, but it will become a little exciting, as the days go by, but just be careful, in the exciting times can also be a dangerous time for some ways.

If you want a long-lasting, productive and mutually beneficial relationship. Then, you need to look for the personality traits that will lead to that outcome.

The highly attractive but moody personalities might seem exciting and sexy until you have endured one of their violent mood swings.

Dangerous , exciting and unpredictable might be thrilling, but it is also emotionaly exhausting. You want someone who is going to fill your emotional glass not to drain it.

Look for the one who is friendly in nature and approachable in personality

In a relationship it’s so important that you always talk with your partner about important topics or whatever stories you can think of, as long as, it is all about strengthening your relationship.

The reason why everyone is looking for partners is so that they have someone to talk to for their lonely days. Talking is very important as ways to make you closer to each other,

so while talking you should be honest to each other about your feelings and about what you want in life.

To find the best partner is so difficult because before you can find out whether he is best or not you need to be partners first, but if you know how to make a partner the best, you can make him the best through your relationship.

There are a lot of people who do not know how to be the best but can be taught. People will learn from people, once you show you care, you are also teaching them to care,

so as long as you know the way and the characteristic of a good partner you can teach it, by showing as an example. You need to demonstrate your feelings you should not hide it,

every time a person is being treated well, he is also learning how to treat anyone well specially to his partner.

So now that you know how to choose the best partner, you can now be a good partner as well, you can now be a good teacher for the bad partner so surely your relationship will be lasting and harmonious.

I hope you learn something from this post, if you have any questions or comments feel free to write them below and I will be more than happy to help you out.

Francisco,

Founder of BOOKWORM Website

Why do we need to read the bible?

Some people have mistakenly making a notion that it is not good to read the bible because it will only mislead them from the right faith, which is very opposite because the bible, is however guiding us to the right path of faith and salvation.

I am sure those who have said it, have never really reading the bible or they just have read a little part of it then stopped, so we can’t blame them for just guessing what really is in the bible. Therefore, I will show you today what exactly is the bible, and why do we need to read it.

Benefits of reading the bible daily.

If you are a God believer and you will say you don’t believe in the bible, it is tantamount of saying you don’t believe in God. We have known

God not by dreams, not by fabricated stories, but by the bible which was written by the prophets of God, Moses did not see how the earth was

created, he even did not see Adam and Eve’s creation, he was only told by God through his angel by telling him how it happened. Therefore, he wrote how the heavens and earth were created according to what was being told to him.

How the bible was discovered?

One of the most important archaeological discoveries of the twentieth century occurred by the Dead Sea in 1947. A young shepherd tossing

stones in a cave struck old clay jars. He had discovered ancient treasure hidden in the caves of Qumran.

Between 1947 and 1956, scrolls and fragments from twelve caves were unearthed—

now known as the Dead Sea Scrolls. The largest biblical scroll was an almost

complete text of the book of Isaiah! Every book of the Hebrew bible were there except Esther and Nehemiah.

Where can we find the original bible nowadays?

The Dead Sea Scrolls were 1,000 years older than what had previously been

considered the oldest manuscripts of the Hebrew Bible. Many closely resemble the

Masoretic Text of the Hebrew Bible preserved by Jewish scribes over the centuries.

Almost all the Dead Sea Scrolls are held by the state of Israel in the Shrine of the Book on the grounds of the Israel Museum, but ownership

of the scrolls is disputed by Jordan and Palestine. Many thousands of written fragments have been discovered in the Dead Sea area.

What is in the old testament bible?

The old testament is composed of 37 books:

The old testament is made of 37 books and about 609,269 words, count varies depending upon the translation of the bible you are using.

Some translation is written in a shorter verse but the meaning is still exactly the same for example:

New International Version of Deuteronomy 8:18 this verse as I have counted is only made of 33 words.

Deuteronomy 8:18 But remember the Lord your God, for it is he who gives you the ability to produce wealth, and so confirms his covenant, which he swore to your ancestors, as it is today.

Authorized King James Version as I have counted is 36 words

Deuteronomy 8:18 But thou shalt remember the Lord thy God: for it is he that giveth thee power to get wealth, that he may establish his covenant which he swore unto thy fathers, as it is this day.

Although they have different counts but the message is still the same, so we don’t need to worry about it, or else if you have any doubt you can refer it to the original Hebrew bible if you like to check word by word if this is really what the writer of the bible is meant to be.

What is in the new testament bible?

New testament is the second part of the Christian Bible, written originally in Greek and recording the life and teachings of Jesus and his

earliest followers. It includes the four Gospels, the Acts of the Apostles, twenty-one epistles by St. Paul and others, and the book of Revelation.

All in all 27 books, 260 chapters, 7957 verses, and 179,011 words.

Why do we need to read the bible?

The bible is the manual of our life and salvation, and if you read it, you will only get to know the characteristics of our God and what he wants us to do in order for us to be guided in accordance to his will.

The bible is inspired by the holy spirit and therefore, not all words in there are telling straight to what is the meaning of the word itself, some

means something else other than what we normally know for the meaning of it. The bible is speaking of spirituality therefore, naturally some words in the bible have the equivalent spiritual meaning.

This is one of the example of the spiritual meaning of the word:

Genesis 2:17 but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.”

The word “die” mention in this verse don’t mean physical death or else Adam had already died right after eating.

So the “die” or the death told by God to Adam if he would eat it is the disconnection of his close relationship with God, that’s why Adam was still able to live 930 years since eating the fruit, and then he physically died.

Due to wrong interpretation, a lot of people are afraid to read the bible, because they don’t know that there is a spiritual meaning of the words in the bible, let’s take one example of the verse that made people afraid to read the bible for they thought they have to do it for themselves literally.

Matthew 18:9 And if your eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into the fire of hell.

God did not mean to gouge your eye out, God doesn’t want you to hurt yourself physically and that is the truth.

So by that verse above, if you are first timer reading the bible you will stop because you are afraid that you can’t follow what God wants you to do, which is not actually what it means to be, because of the spiritual meaning that you need to understand.

The bible is the best book that the bookworms or the book reading lovers have missed reading. There are a lot of beautiful true stories in the bible, it’s not only preaching and gospels.

The first five books of the bible or Torah is written by Moses and this contains about creations, of heavens, earth, human, etc. These books

are all about laws of God, and the stories about the people of God. There are a lot of beautiful stories contained with it.

Genesis, Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers, and Deuteronomy,

these are the first five books and is pertaining the laws. A very beautiful book to read, this is where the movie ten commandments was taken,

and it’s also where you can read the sentimental story of Joseph the dreamer who became the governor of Egypt because of interpreting

dreams, and many, many more interesting events that will teach us about the greatness of God.

You don’t need to be scared about reading the bible, there is nothing complicated in there, when you read the stories, you are just like

reading a novel or an ordinary books, and the good thing about this book is while you are enjoying the stories and the advice of God to his

people, it is like God himself is talking to you. When we pray we are talking to God, and when we read the bible, God is talking to us, so if you would like God to talk to you personally, read the bible and you are conversing with him.

Joshua, Judges, Ruth, 1 Samuel, 2 Samuel, 1 Kings, 2 Kings, 1 Chronicles, 2 Chronicles, Ezra,

Nehemiah, and Esther.

These 12 books of the bible which can be found right after the Torah or the five books written by Moses. These books are all about history of

the kings and the judges, and you will find a lot of beautiful true stories about the biblical era, Samson and Delilah, David and Goliath, and many more lovely stories which you should read.

Job, Psalms, Proverbs, Ecclesiastes, and Song of Solomon.

All these books are all about poetry, if you are fond of making poems, songs, stories, and much wisdom and knowledge that you will learn from reading all these books, which are written by the prophets of God including King Solomon.

Isaiah and Jeremiah

These books are mostly all about prophecy but it doesn’t mean difficult to read but for things which is still to happen in the future, that one

you can’t just give a meaning right away without examining the words of how it is meant to be by the prophet who wrote it like Isaiah and Jeremiah.

Isaiah 40:22 He sits enthroned above the circle of the earth, and its people are like grasshoppers. He stretches out the heavens like a canopy, and spreads them out like a tent to live in.

Isaiah was written about 700 years before Christ, or about 3,000 years ago from now. There was no astronaut yet on that time to reach the moon and take a picture of the earth just like what we are having now, so if we only consider Isaiah’s book you can find out that there is really a powerful being which I called God that is watching above and telling him how the earth looked like, he said, “circle of the earth” meaning the earth is round. And the original fragment of the book of Isaiah which is in the Dead Sea Scroll, is still available up to our time as evidence of the credibility of the bible, as words of God.

Lamentations

Then we have the lamentation which is the 25th books of the bible and is another poetry book.

Ezekiel, Daniel, Hosea, Joel, Amos, Obadiah, Jonah, Micah, Nahum, Habakkuk, Zephaniah, Haggai, Zechariah, Malachi.

From Ezekiel the 26th books of the old testament up to Malachi, which is the last book of the old testament and the 39th books of the old testament.

All these books pertains prophecy, and all of them are written with the inspiration of the holy spirit of God, and they themselves, like Ezekiel, Daniel, etc., are writing all these books.

So these are all the 39 books of the old testaments, composed of 929 chapters, 23,146 verses, 609,269 words, counting of words varies on translations.

New Testament of the bible

 

A Codex Sinaiticus manuscript, right, the earliest complete New Testament, from 4th century Egypt or Judea on display in the ‘Sacred : Discover what we share’ exhibition at the British Library in London, Wednesday, April 25, 2007 (AP Photo/Sang Tan)

The picture of the book above is one of the living new testament bible hand written by the apostles of Christ which is now still available to be seen in person in the museum of the British Library in London.

New Testament is defined as the books of the Bible that tell the story of the life of Jesus and his followers. The second part of the Christian Bible is an example of the New Testament.

The books of the New Testament were preserved until the invention of printing as handwritten copies.

Compared with other contemporary writings an exceptionally large number of manuscript copies of the books of the New Testament have survived.

While only a few late copies have survived of even the most important works of Antiquity, more than 5,000 manuscripts or manuscript copies of New Testament books are known.

The oldest manuscripts containing the whole New Testament are from the 4th century. The oldest known fragment of the New Testament is from the first half of the 2nd century, a copy of a passage from John’s Gospel.

The first four books of the new testament: Matthew, Mark, Luke, John

The first four books of the new testament are called the gospels and it is all about the birth of Jesus, until he died in the cross and his resurrection from the dead, there is nothing difficult to read and understand here except some few parables and words with spiritual interpretation. Each of the books are written by them themselves.

Luke’s writing has a little bit uniqueness compared to the other apostles because, Luke is an evangelist and a doctor in profession, he’s not always with Jesus during his preaching, thereby, his writing is based on his investigation from the eyewitnesses which are his fellow apostles.

Here is the way Luke wrote his book:

Luke 1:1-3  1 Many have undertaken to draw up an account of the things that have been fulfilled among us,

² just as they were handed down to us by those who from the first were eyewitnesses and servants of the word.

³ With this in mind, since I myself have carefully investigated everything from the beginning, I too decided to write an orderly account for you, most excellent Theophilus,

So Luke is writing in an orderly account, based on his investigation from the eyewitnesses.

Book of Acts or the Acts of the apostles are written not only by Luke but also with the other apostles of Christ and this book is mostly all about history of the Christian era and some gospels about salvation.

The book of Acts or Acts of the apostles is composed of 28 chapters, 1007 verses and about 24,229 words

Romans, 1 Corinthians, 2 Corinthians, Galatians, Ephesians, Philippians, Colossians,

1 Thessalonians, 2 Thessalonians, 1 Timothy, 2 Timothy, Titus, Philemon

All these 13 books of the new testament were written by Apostle Paul, and it’s believed to be not just 13 but more, some of his epistles

were gone, for example this verse below written by Paul to the Galatians should supposed to be his second letter to them already as he said,

and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, meaning this verse of Galatians 5:21, is already his 2nd letter  to the Galatians, let’s read the verse to find out how can this possible that his letter to Galatians is already the second.

Galatians 5:21 Envying, murders, drunkenness, reveling, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.

So the book of Galatians should supposed to be having 1 Galatians and 2 Galatians but there is only one therefore some are gone, and it’s not just the only one with the proof of the bible about his missing epistles, there are more of it, but we can’t put all of them in this post or else it will become very long.

Book of Hebrews;

The 19th book of the new testament and the 58 books of the whole bible, this is believed to be Paul’s letter to Hebrews but it is being disputed and questioned by scholars and declared to be with unknown writer.

This book or letter to the Hebrews are made of 13 chapters, 303 verses, and about 6897 words.

All this 14 letters of Paul can be read by all who would like to, but only there are a lot of words in his epistles  that has a spiritual interpretation and we need  to read it carefully, and we need the guidance of the holy spirit in order for us to understand about what Paul would mean, even Apostle Peter in his book of 2 Peter 3:16 is confirming about the epistles of Paul which are hard to be understood.

2 Peter 3:16  As also in all his epistles, speaking in them of these things; in which are some things hard to be understood, which they that are unlearned and unstable wrest, as they do also the other scriptures, unto their own destruction.

Apostle Peter is telling on this verse that some of Paul’s epistles are hard to be understood, so he himself experienced how difficult it was to be understood on some Paul’s epistles.

To prove to you some words that are difficult to understand I will give you an example:

Philippians 3:2 Beware of dogs, beware of evil workers, beware of the concision.

This verse is one only of the samples but there are a lot of his epistles that are really difficult to understand because it has double meanings, one

is physical and the other is spiritual, the dogs he mentioned on that verse is not a literal dog.

James, 1 Peter, 2 Peter, 1 John, 2 John, 3 John, Jude.

These are the books of the new testament where you can find at almost the end of the bible new testament, the whole bible is made up of 66 books and James is the 59th

so Jude is the 65th or second to the last book of the bible or the 26th books of new testament because the new testament is made up of 27 books

The 2nd and the 3rd book of John are the shortest letter or book in the new testament 2 John is made up for only 1 chapter, 13 verses, and 298 words, while the 3 John is made up of 1 chapter, 12 verses, and 294 words.

Book of Revelations written by John:

This is the very last book of the bible or 66th books called the revelation of John.

God had shown him through vision about what is in heaven and everything in there, this book mostly about prophesy, most of them are still to happen, so John was like watching a movie and he wrote everything that needs to be written, it’s a little difficult to understand if you

would like to know everything that he wrote about the future, you need the intervention of the holy spirit in order for you to be guided on what exactly John means in his writing.

The bible is very different compared to the other books, the normal story of book when we read will start from the very beginning and the

following word will all be based on the series of the story, meaning the next paragraph will always be the continuation of the story, but the

bible is different, you have to read carefully, because the next verse will not always mean a continuation of the preceding verse, you have to

consider every verse, do not always think that the next verse is the continuation or else you will be mislead, I will show an example.

1 Corinthians 11:8-11 For man was not made from woman, but woman from man.

9 Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man.

10 That is why a wife ought to have a symbol of authority on her head, because of the angels.

11 Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man nor man of woman;

The verse 10 looks like deviating the point, because what is the relation of the verse about woman against angels, in that verse sounds like the woman needs a protection against angels.

It’s the reason why some bible readers are telling that there are a lot of contradiction because they didn’t understand how bible is arranged, and why do woman need a symbol of authority on her head  because of angels.

I would like to tell you that it’s not a lost verse but definitely having a valuable reasons with regard to what the angels had done with the women during the times of Noah, but it’s a very long explanation before it can be understood, and it needs another full content post to do for just about it.

I am just trying to make you understand about why there are a lot of bible misinterpretation happening because it is inspired by the Holy Spirit, we need his intervention in order for us to have the correct interpretation.

Isaiah 34:16 Seek and read from the book of the Lord: Not one of these shall be missing; none shall be without her mate. For the mouth of the Lord has commanded, and his Spirit has gathered them.

We are instructed by God to seek and read from the book of the Lord: Not one of these shall be missing, none shall be without her mate. For the mouth of the Lord has commanded, and his spirit has gathered them.

So in the bible if you would like to know what exactly is the meaning of some verses, God said, search and read from the book of the Lord, so

your answer will just be somewhere within the bible, you do not need to go out from it because it is answering in itself but you should know how to find it, with the help of the holy spirit.

Genesis 3:1

1 Now the serpent was more subtle than any beast of the field which the Lord God had made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden?

2 And the woman said unto the serpent, We may eat of the fruit of the trees of the garden:

³ but from the fruit of the tree which is in the middle of the garden, God has said, ‘You shall not eat from it or touch it, or you will die.

In this verse there is a snake or serpent, the one who deceived Eve from eating the fruit, and now if you want to know who is this serpent, what is his name? So you have to search in the book because it will always have its mate.

Let’s ask God, God what is the name of that serpent that deceived Eve?

Revelation 12:9 And the great dragon was cast out, that old serpent, called the Devil, and Satan, which deceiveth the whole world: he was cast out into the earth, and his angels were cast out with him.

Can you imagine that the verse in Genesis can be answered in Revelation, so that is how the bible is, that if you don’t read well you will surely

be giving a wrong interpretation, and some readers are charging it as contradiction due to their not being able to understand on what exactly the Lord has meant to be.

The bible is written by human because it is intended for human, so all human can read it, and if you like more guidance of the holy spirit in

order for us to understand what exactly the Lord wanted us to learn. The first secret is, we should clean our heart and ask forgiveness from

the lord of all the wrong doings we have done. We should keep away from all evil doings we have done, then God will help us understand the

deep meaning of his sacred words in the bible. Or else if you are currently in your evil doings, you better not dare to read or you might just be

picking up wrong interpretation and you will be misleading those whom you shared what you read.

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I hope you learn something, if you have any questions please write them below and I will be more than happy to help you out.

 

Francisco

Founder of Bookworm or franciscorondinalaurito.com Website

 

How To Make Her Love You Forever?

7 Easy Ways to Make Your Girlfriend Feel Special.

Introduction

It’s so important that we don’t hide our feelings, yes! It’s true that most of the people who hide their feelings are the ones who care the most. But how can that care be valued without being demonstrated?

It is the open feelings that mostly made a lot of people fall in love. When we notice that somebody is showing a special care for us, we will be automatically triggered to question ourselves, why he cares that way.

So beginning then, that person will be registered in our mind as a nice person, because not all are showing the same way, so he must be someone special, and then that is the starting point of a newly growing love.

You will start to become interested in knowing about his life, whether he has girl friend or not. When you find out that he’s free, your newly growing love will open a bit more, until sooner or later you will reach to the point of becoming lovers.

Now you are in a relationship, no matter how big or how little is your love with each other your in the situation where you are not anymore alone but with someone whom we can consider to be yours for a while or forever, it will only depend on how would you like it to be.

Hereby, I am creating this 7 simple ways to make your lover into forever.

1.You should not be ashamed to each other.

Don’t be like some other people that are hiding their real feelings and pretending that they don’t care but deep inside they care the most, which is very vital in a relationship, but only was not appreciated because of lack of demonstration.

You have to feel easy and comfortable when together, holding hands when walking, and kiss as many times you like everyday like you are kissing a baby child.

Touching each other is very important, whenever you are talking, do not do like talking with someone else, talk with your body close to each other, in other words,

you talk like you are whispering, that you need to almost kiss her ear just so that you can be heard, and by this way, you are watering the sprout of love to make it form its first young leaves.

2.You should be open about things you like.

You are in the process of building a relationship and both of you are also in observation on each other’s compatibility. So be open about things that you like and don’t like, so that you are giving her an idea what really you are in reality, if there something she likes and doesn’t like, you will notice it, right away as a natural reaction.

In this way, you are also going to let her show what really she is with her real attitude, and at least you have now a clue of what to do, to make your lover into forever.

You have to show that you appreciate all the good things she did, not only negative comments. Compliments as well her nice dress, her fragrant perfume, her nice hair etc. You have to do it in a heartfelt way, be specific and be genuine when you smile.

3. Stop Blaming Your Partner for Everything That’s Wrong.

It is so disgusting even on our self, when we hear being blame for something, even if it is really her fault, don’t be caught being noticed that you blame her for it, almost take part of what happened, and always take ownership of everything and make it like it’s your own fault.

Whether you are married or not, you have to respect your relationship like you’re already husband and wife. Remember the saying that says, Marriage is a relationship in which one person is always right and the other is the husband.

But it is inevitable that we blame somebody whenever we are upset, bored, disappointed, and stressed, specially when it’s about relationship.

So what happen next, is that we are thinking that it is her responsibility to change her ways to improve your differences.

Remember that the devil is just their which is the pride who is the popular star for breaking a lot of relationships, and you can not expect that to happen.

When pride prevails, nothing good can be expected anymore, so the best way to do is just to calm down and relax, give her the chance to settle down, because this is not happening everyday, it only started with the irritation for being blamed for something useless.

Sometimes, you’ve got to shut up, swallow your pride and make it like your own fault or wrong. It’s not called giving up, it’s a part of what is called growing up in a relationship.

4. Strengthen your relationship by creating an activities.

It’s good that in relationship, you will mix it with some activities. It’s nice to feel some relaxing moment, after a 20  minutes yoga, or a 30 minutes walking, biking together along the road, or a 30 minutes swimming on a pool.

There is nothing as relaxing as it is, that can boost your bodily system that leads to a happier, richer moments together.

Always show to her that your feelings of eagerness on her sexually, has never changed till so far, and with this you have implanted in her mind the feelings of being special and therefore, you will be special for her too.

Once we know we are special, we tend to feel a natural happiness created from our minds, and remember you can not find happiness but you can only create it.

The more happy you are, the more happy you will be. Every time we are happy, our body is producing a natural serotonin, If you don’t know what is this, this is the substance that is given to a person who has a depression problem.

Luckily we have it in our body as well, which is naturally produced whenever we are happy and whenever we smile genuinely.

5. Show your real attitude, and don’t hide it.

During the courtship time, we are trying to hide our natural weaknesses, our attitude, and our do’s and don’t, because at that moment you are in the process of winning her feelings.

We are trying to do the best that we can to surpass our own goodness. But that was before, it’s now the time to reveal, if there are really things that you are trying to avoid which you feel difficult to manage, you have to share it because it is she herself that can help you a lot about it.

Once we are honest of what we are, the person whom you shared will try to understand it, and will find a way to help you out.

Attitude is really just a small thing but it can make a big difference in a relationship. You become like a big burden to someone, if you have an attitude which is difficult to fathom. We need to fight for our self with it because your own enemy is just yourself.

Once everything is being shared and your girlfriend is already aware of it that this is your weakness, at that very moment she will be warned about it, and it can help your relationship to get stronger.

But make sure you will do your best to overcome this, if you were able to hide it while you were still courting, then you can also remove it from your self if you wish to.

So start correcting yourself without any help and you can make it. Your girlfriend’s patience as human being is limited, she can not bear with you forever with your attitude, you need to fix it by you own will, and the chances are, you can make your girlfriend into forever.

Conflict is normal, even healthy, it’s a spice of any relationship. What’s important is how you handle it. With the right tools and attitude, conflict becomes a gateway to a deeper intimacy—the chance to be seen and loved for who you truly are, to accept your mate’s adorable, vulnerable real self, and to build a strong union of relationship.

Be like those other happy couples, who tried to avoid verbalizing critical thoughts, keep discussions from escalating, and don’t use absolutes like “never” and “always.”

If a fight does start, try to change the subject, inject gentle humor, empathize or show your partner extra appreciation. It’s the time for you to learn when  to come close and when to go away.

When somebody is hot you should try to be cool, this is not cowardice but this is a sign of respect that you acknowledge her as human being that there is really a time that we have a mood swing.

6. Know the right time before you argue.

You have to be kind and considerate not only with your girlfriend but also for everyone. When people are showing some unpleasant actions, you don’t need to argue right away.

If you notice some sudden changes of your girlfriend’s mood, try to empathize instead, there is maybe a deep reason for that. Wait the right time when she cools down or else nothing good will happen as an outcome.

If you know the right timing for arguing there will be no argument that will happen. An argument is triggered by the hotness of your mood, and once you are in a cool state, you can not think of arguing.

If you are this kind of person, I can guarantee you that you are capable of holding someone in your life for life.

It so nice to live with somebody who is loving, considerate, passionate, understanding, etc. Nobody ever wish to live without you.

7. Listen to learn to make your relationship last.

To keep a solid foundation of a relationship, you need to speak less and listen more. The more you talk the more likely you can speak some irritating words,

you may likely mention some disgusting words from the past which was gone for long, and once it’s mentioned it will cause a big argument of why you recalled this finished things.

All the past is over and gone, it must not take part in the present situation, so to avoid being mistakenly mentioning something unpleasant, try to be a listener not a talker.

Nobody likes people who keep on talking even if the conversation is already over. You can make a conversation last for long by listening than to talking, because most people like to talk than to listen.

So the secret to make your girlfriend like you is by listening her more and talking her less, because most women like to talk, it is their naturalism.

That’s why the saying says, The language is called the mother tongue, because the father has not given the chance to talk.

You have to decide right now that the woman with you will be your forever, you have to create a goal in your relationship.

You have to swear to God that you will not find somebody else anymore and you promise that you will love her as you love yourself.

This is in general, because it so happened normally that maybe some of you are experiencing an unsuccessful relationship which is very much okay.

There is really a situation that you meet someone whom you thought is the last but just passed like a history. Don’t worry it’s not your fault, it’s the stories fault that you have a bad end.

I don’t blame anyone for that, because I know that you don’t intend to do it, it’s the fate that made it. So now at this very moment, whoever is with you, or from wherever history you came from, you can start a new beginning with a lasting happy ending.

If you are now in the situation of having a girlfriend, a spouse, or any partner in a relationship which some of you could not qualify for earthly marriage because of some situations from the past, you don’t need to be guilty of it.

As long as you are truly loving each other, you are promising to not to find another one anymore that even in human standard you are not husband and wife because there is no marriage that binds you.

The good news is, in God standard you can still be considered husband and wife, because of your hearts which God sees that truly loving each other.

I like to prove it in the biblical aspect because I am including God in here, so let’s read the story of a Samaritan woman in

JOHN 4:9-22

JOHN 4:9-22

9 The Samaritan woman said to him, “How is it that you, a Jew, ask for a drink from me, a woman of Samaria?” (For Jews have no dealings with Samaritans.)

10 Jesus answered her, “If you knew the gift of God, and who it is that is saying to you, ‘Give me a drink,’ you would have asked him, and he would have given you living water.”

11 The woman said to him, “Sir, you have nothing to draw water with, and the well is deep. Where do you get that living water?

12 Are you greater than our father Jacob? He gave us the well and drank from it himself, as did his sons and his livestock.”

13 Jesus said to her, “Everyone who drinks of this water will be thirsty again,

14 but whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again.[b] The water that I will give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”

15 The woman said to him, “Sir, give me this water, so that I will not be thirsty or have to come here to draw water.”

16 Jesus said to her, “Go, call your husband, and come here.”

17 The woman answered him, “I have no husband.” Jesus said to her, “You are right in saying, ‘I have no husband’;

18 for you have had five husbands, and the one you now have is not your husband. What you have said is true.”

19 The woman said to him, “Sir, I perceive that you are a prophet.

20 Our fathers worshiped on this mountain, but you say that in Jerusalem is the place where people ought to worship.” .

So with this proof from the bible is stating that God’s standard is based in who is the last one whom you loved the most, whether it’s first, second, third, forth, or fifth, congratulations! you are the registered couple in the eyes of God.

Again you are now couple, if both of you are really loving each other, and God knows it, because he can read your hearts and mind. And beginning today, you will commit adultery if you will find somebody else.

I know, it’s a little difficult for you to understand what I mean, but I believed you grasp a bit, an understanding, and the sacredness of committing a relationship.

God said to the Samaritan woman who innocently asked for a physical water while God was referring to a spiritual water that he will give them the water, but he wants her to bring her husband with her, not saying bring her boyfriend with her.

even though she denied having a husband, God called him husband because he knows their hearts, that they are truly loving each other.

So pay a big respect on your togetherness and companionship, you should not spoil your 5 to 10 years relationship by just a day problem. Whenever there is an argument, fix the source of it and never involve your innocent relationship.

So beginning today your counting for your anniversary, if you are married, it should start from the day you were together the first time.

Example: if you were married 5 years ago and before that you were together for 2 years before getting married, so meaning to say you are already all in all 7 years, but if not married so your counting is from the time you’re together till so far.

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I hope you learn a lesson from this content. if you have any questions feel free to write them below, and I will be more than happy to help you out.

Francisco,

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What is a baby?

The very young offspring of a human, an extreme young child, or infant.

A soon as your baby is born he started to tune up your voice and speech pattern to try to find out what you are saying.

Then he started to understand your words but doesn’t know the meaning, but by the tone of your voice he can differentiate whether you are upset or happy.

After few months old he will start to pick up your emotions, love, anxiety, concern, anger, etc.

At 8 months old your child begins to use some gestures or signs to tell you what he wants.

If he wants to be picked up, he will raise his hands, if asked for more food he will nod his head or wave if doesn’t like.

Your baby is tuning in to your tone of voice. When you sound friendly, he’ll react joyfully, and if you speak to him sharply, he’ll probably cry.

At nine months old, he can already recognize and respond to his own name when you call him.

At the age of 12 months to 16 months old, he can already understand simple requests like “give me five,” “show me your beautiful smile,” and some simple other requests.

At the age of 3 years old he can already comprehend a little bit about orders or commands, such as, “reach me your milk bottle,” “put your shoes on the rack,” and maybe many more.

But I’m talking about in general but there are really kids who developed advance knowledge at young age.

My daughter at the age of 2 years she already knows basic operations of the cell phone, such as, taking pictures, scrolling it to her favorite games, movies and many more. She even knows already how to count from 1 to 10.

But I saw some kids same as her age which are not the same therefore, I found out that each kid has his individual personal knowledge development, Some at early age, some at late.

At around the ages of two years and three years, your child will already understand love and trust, and the basic building blocks of relationships. He knows that he is also loved by the rest of the family, and he feels very special because almost everybody who sees him will smile and say hi!

At the age of 4, he will start to understand a bit about right and wrong, on the way you reacted of what he is doing, but still he cannot understand it fully, and therefore, he can still repeat the same naughtiness as he did.

At the age of five, he has already a little clearer understanding about instructions and reactions.

You can already tell him to do something for you, in other words he can already help you to do things that you like.

So the kids from the age of 6 to 11 have already the full capability  to learn and understand to do things but what is lacking on them is to know the good and the bad.

So we can sum all of them up to the question, what is a child?

A child is a person who has not yet reached adulthood.

Therefore, it’s also the right age to train up a child.

How To Train Up A Child In A Godly Way?

The best ways of training up a child  is by letting him know that what he is doing is wrong, being a kid he doesn’t know yet what is good and what is bad unless you correct him.

If  he did something which is bad and you just ignored it, you have neglected your responsibility as parents to correct your child while still young, because once he becomes adult, it will be harder anymore to correct him, cause he has already built his own wrong judgement as the effect of your negligence towards your responsibility as parents and teacher.

Whenever the child does something wrong, correct it right away, by showing that you are not happy with what he is doing and telling him that that is bad and don’t do it again.

As a normal kid, he doesn’t like to see his parents feeling bad because of him, and once he is corrected he will try to implant it in his mind to not to do it again

When do we discipline our child?

A child who is still a kid has no knowledge yet about righteousness. He will only pick up some ideas about what he is doing base in our reactions right after he does something.

If he does something bad and we laugh at it, he is thinking that he did something funny and good, and he has the tendency to repeat and repeat it again for the purpose of amusing you.

So our reaction can teach them something , if he sees you’re happy with what he is doing, even if he’s doing bad he’s thinking it was something amazing because you both are laughing, so our reaction is playing a big role in training them.

We the parents can tell when exactly is the right moment to start correcting, because every child has its individual uniqueness of age understanding.

Some kids at 3 years old can already start to obey your commands while some kids even if already 8 years old, you still need to repeat and repeat in telling him before he can exactly follow your instructions.

So there is no specific standard of age, and it’s only you yourselves can determine it being parents.

Why should we discipline our child?

 

We correct our child because we care for them. We do it, in order for them to grow up with a proper conduct and behavior which is the source of respect.

We should correct our children to show them that what they are doing is not good.

At the young age of 6 years old,  I still remembered my mom who was so upset with me because I was so hardheaded and didn’t like to stop playing with the scissors.

Actually I was not playing with scissors, I just always carry it wherever I go because my hobby as a kid is drawing objects then after that I cut it up with scissors.

At that age, I felt so bad with my mom that how come she’s not happy with what made me enjoy.

For me she’s not a good mother because I compared her to my other mother’s friends that just allowing them to do it.

But the things I wondered is how come she’s giving me if I ask something else other than playing with scissors.

Being a kid it became a big question of my childhood.

Few years later at the age of 10, I saw a kid who was running to his house because of strong rain, the boy accidentally fell down on the slippery wet floor and and had got a big wound on his stomach due to the scissors which was in his pocket.

Right there and then I realized why my mom didn’t allow me, to play with that.

The disappointment I had with my mom had turned into a big thank an appreciation.

I thanked her so much for being so strict about disciplining me, I didn’t know that it’s for my own good.

So in that case, I realized that when my mom said NO!, she was saying ‘I LOVE YOU’.

Do we need to punish our child?

Punishment is really a necessity when you see that words are not enough to correct him. When you already did all the ways of good corrections and still nothing had happened then that means he needs a higher level of disciplinary action.

What is the proper way of disciplining your child?

The proper way of punishing is to let him be aware that he is doing something unpleasant, and because of it you need to show him how much you hate this kind of things being done.

What kind of correction do we need to apply to our children?

Of course you are dealing with your beloved child whom you had eagerly waited for nine months and made you the happiest person in the world, when you heard him crying upon delivery, so you should discipline him with love and tenderness.

Always remember that your child is not your enemy, you don’t need to hurt him.

If how you punish your pet dog when did something very wrong, remember your kid is not your pet, he is your loving child.

Being parents you know exactly how to properly execute it.

Don’t be like other parents who showed more consideration to animals than their kids which is very wrong

And such parents who are like that, have not understood fully the value of a relationship between parents and children.

What will you benefit for punishing your child?

As long as you are doing the right way of disciplining, you are doing your best part and responsibility, and the correction and discipline that you have done will become their guide when they will become parents.

Children could not realize it yet, they could not appreciate it yet, until they become parents themselves..

Conclusion

To discipline a child, both of you the parents have to be in same page,  both of you will do it together, not that one of you is against each other.

The young mind of a kid will be spoiled if he sees that one is upset with him and the other is supporting him.

You have to show to him that none of you are pleased with what he is doing.

You also have to brief your Mother or your father to never show that they care for him while the correction is in progress.

He’s doing bad and he has to realize it, when he sees that because of doing bad, nobody likes him anymore, then he will implant in his mind to never do it again or else, nobody will like him anymore.

As soon as he realizes it, he will start to show to you that he’s trying to be good already, he will maybe arrange something or maybe sweeping the floor, or anything he will do, just to catch your attention.

He will gradually approach you and say sorry to you, then you have to say, “never do it again, or else I don’t like you anymore.”

Yes! it’s really so hard to say this to a child whom you loved, but for the sake of him to be corrected, you have to show that you are not happy with what he is doing.

While we try to teach our child all about life, our child is teaching us what life is all about.

So stop trying to perfect your child, but keep trying to perfect your relationship with him.

It is our responsibility to correct our kids whenever they will do something wrong, for hoping they will not do it again.

We have to discipline them because we care and we love not because we hate, and the purpose for it is for their own good and they will be thankful for it later because what he learned will also be applied to their own family once they become parents.

Punishment can be okay as long as in the right way, it is not bad however it’s good, and this signifies that you love him as your child.

And lastly I would like to remind you parents that it is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings.

Punishment once again for doing wrong is not bad, however is a sure sign of a loving parents who deeply care.

Hebrews 12:8

If you are not punished, as  all his children are, it means you are not real children, but bastards.

If you learn something or if you have comments and suggestions, feel free to write below, and I will be more than happy to hear it.

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Wherever you are, whoever you are, and whatever you do. May God bless you as always.

Francisco,

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Is your love fading?

The signs that your relationship is ending, can be obviously noticed by each other’s behavior, but since we are human being you can not judge this way in just an instance.

There are tons of reasons why people’s customs will change, You might be the reasons who knows!, or whatever will happen there is always a reason.

But the good thing in a good relationship is that even though you argue, or you fight, as long as there is love all those yesterday’s fight will not stop today’s love.

Is argument and fight in a relationship normal?

 

I have learned that just because two people argue, doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do love each other. This is definitely not the basis for that, arguments and fights, I don’t mean killings but lovely fight because you are fighting not with your enemy but a beloved wife. A little arguments and a little fight are the condiments that gives flavor to a successful marriage

But if you notice that your relationship is really different, I will be giving you some hints of what possibly is happening around your relationship. So if you think that you encounter several similarities of traits then it’s the time for you to find a way to save your relationship sooner or later your relationship will end.

If you are loved you are given a priority.

Both a man or a woman are willing to sacrifice for the one they love. If you truly love your partner you will prioritize his or her needs before anything else. If this is not happening meaning to say there is something wrong that you need to be worried about.

Your loved one is your personal admirer and supporter.

Your husband or your wife is your number one admirer or even number one supporter. But if these all are gone, if there is no more support and admiration, It’s implying that love doesn’t prevail anymore. To support and to admire is another way of showing respect, and once you respect, the support and love is still flaming.

So your partner’s love will easily fade away once respect is gone. So even if your spouse is not earning anything, you will still have to listen and respect her even if it pertains financial matters or else you don’t love anymore.

Once you married you became a part of the family and you should respect them as you have respected your husband.

Many times it happened that daughter-in-law are not keeping along well with mother in law. Sometime it’s because of both sides reasons. Some mother-in-law doesn’t like their daughter-in-law, and of course nobody likes it, but if your wife is a favorite of your mother but still she complained about her, it means a bad sign. If she does’t like the people you love one day she will also do it to you and that is the probability.

A spouse who is truly loving, she will find a way to love you and your whole family as one. And if she’s not behaving this way, you should be alarmed and questioned about what happened to your relationship.

A wife who loves will prove it through actions she will demonstrate her care like caring a little child.

A woman who has love for you whenever she wants your attention she will show you some childish display. But when she looks for a fight in almost everything without a reason, you already have the idea that she’s not loving you anymore or maybe just about to fade. So at this time you have to start evaluating your companionship, how often you argue what argument are you having is there a reason. Yes, argument is inevitable, but if it’s too often means something wrong with your relationship.

A wife who is loving will always find time to be together with you, she feels like a time without you is a lost time.

 

When you just married, you always find time together, always holding hands, go together shopping, outing, and anything to enjoy being together. Each needs are first among everything, but when your wife becomes very busy all the time, she has more time with her friends than yours, she even cancels your date just for some unexplained reasons, feeling tired that’s why cannot accompany, this is only telling you indirectly that you’re not her priority anymore, so better watch for this.

In the beginning her love was flaming that no other man but you, yet suddenly becomes cold.

 

Everybody love caress and intimacy, being couple it’s one of the proof of love for each other which is demonstrated through sex. This is where you can physically express your longing for each other. But when suddenly your wife has changed a lot that she feels uneasy whenever you imply asking for sexual favor, that automatically denotes that her love is getting cold and she doesn’t love you anymore. A woman who loves and respect, she will always find a way, and not disappointing you.

She doesn’t answer your messages and calls, reasons phone was left in the room or whatever.

Human beings have emotions because we have love in our heart, and those who don’t have are considered not human at all. So it’s normal that even you’re just somewhere over there in the corner if you don’t hear each other for few hours, even without a reason at all, you will find time to call just to check how’s the situation so far but in reality because you love you already missed her, but what happened is the opposite feelings, instead she will be missing you too, she’s not answering your call and even replying your messages. She doesn’t care how you are worried about her. This is a sure sign that you have no more importance to her and she doesn’t care for you and she doesn’t love you.

She’s no longer interested in you.

 

A wife who is loving she can not afford to live without you, it is always her longing to be by your side all the time but when suddenly she feels awkward being with you and she doesn’t like that somebody sees you holding hands together, she has no more interest in all your activities like gym, sports or whatever. Not mentioning anymore about your special days like birthdays, anniversaries, etc. Then It’s a clear sign that your relationship is in big trouble.

She doesn’t care wherever you go you’re free and she will not bother you.

 

Most women has a sense of possession, and a woman who loves will always put a matter on even small things. If she sees a lady in your picture she will ask who is that, she will ask where are you going, she will ask why you came so late today, some people called it jealousy but this is the reasonable and common one, the bad jealousy is when you see things always with magnifying glasses which make little into large, of dwarfs into giants, and suspicions into truths. She’s concern about your health. She will even ask you to go for hair cut because she wants you look handsome. She will tell you to brush your teeth because she doesn’t like that other people will tell her that her husband has bad breath. That is a concern of real loving wife. But if what happened is the opposite, . She never care for you anymore, so surely your relationship is almost going to an end.

You’re not anymore part of her plans an ambition for the success of your relationship.

 

Most women have plans and dreams of their lives in the future and if you’re still part of it she will be mentioning it to you. She wants you to be ready when there are coming events and holidays, she so excited to mention you about it. But if she just plan it for herself, you have to prepare now because that is a sign that your relationship has only a little chance to survive.

With your common sense, all the changes that will happen in a relationship can be so noticeable if you care, not unless you too be feeling the same.

Even if you encountered all those signs in your relationship, you don’t need to lose hope but just don’t expect.

There is still a chance that you can save your relationship, you just have to do all the opposite to take the chance she might change, but if you already do your best but still you failed don’t worry it’s not yet the end of your world.

God sometimes puts people in your life for a reason and removes them from your life for a better reason.

I hope you learn something about the signs that your wife is not loving you anymore.

If you have any comments and suggestions feel free to write them below, or maybe if you have something to add, I will be more than happy to help you out.

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Wherever you are whatever you do stay safe and do pray as always…

Francisco,

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