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Before anything else let’s first talk about disease and it’s definition so that we can have the broader idea about the possibility if, is sickness a punishment from God?

Definition of disease: Disease is commonly defined as a condition of the living animal or even plant body or of some of its parts that impairs the normal functioning and is generally noticed by some distinguishing symptoms : infectious diseases a rare genetic disease heart disease, sickness, malady, etc.

We human being have bodies which are corruptible because we all don’t live forever for our body and flesh will have and end and that ending is called death.

Our body has a complete structure called human being.

The body is composed of different kinds or types of cells which all of them joined together to create tissues and as a result there is now a what we called organ systems.

So altogether are comprising with a head, neck, trunk, arms, hands, legs, feet, and without forgetting the thorax and abdomen.

Thus, we have the complete composition of a human being.

If we consider our being we can have the little understanding why we get sick without blaming God, but I invite you to continue reading for you will also learn if sickness has something to do with God’s ways.

Actually sickness is happening for many reasons. Some people have inborn illness and some of them have been developed as a fault of their genes.

But the most common reasons why we are infected with bacteria, fungus, virus, covid, and many others, it’s not due to your lack of faith in God but merely because of your immune system which is not anymore able to destroy or protect you from being ill.

Thereby, as we grow older, the chance of getting sick or dying are very much expected and possible because old people’s immune systems are very much weaker than the young ones.

Going back to the composition of our body, that we are only made up of cells which each of them has its individual function.

Our cells are copying themselves to produce new ones through replication in order for our body to stay healthy.

But cells replication is not endless, it will also die when its time comes that’s why there is also a what we called garbage collector cells or an enzyme called DJ-1.

DJ-1 function is to collect harmful by-products of metabolism and disposes them safely.

When our cells will lose its ability to efficiently replicate then our body will start to grow old, because there will be then more dead cells piled up in our body and the production of new cells are getting slower until it will eventually reach to malfunctioning because of old age, it’s not anymore able to replicate properly as we were of the younger age, which resulted in a declining of body function or a so called disease.

Yes, you might be right that disease is punishment but not all diseases are punishment.

Let’s read a verse of the bible in the book of:

 

Philippians 2:25 But I think it is necessary to send back to you Epaphroditus, my brother, co-worker and fellow soldier, who is also your messenger, whom you sent to take care of my needs.

26 For he longs for all of you and is distressed because you heard he was ill.

27 Indeed he was ill, and almost died. But God had mercy on him, and not on him only but also on me, to spare me sorrow upon sorrow.

Epaphroditus was a co-worker of Apostle Paul in their service to God and he was very ill that made him almost died for it, and if we try to figure out the reason why he’s ill let’s read the continuation of the verse.

Philippians 2:30 because he almost died for the work of Christ. He risked his life to make up for the help you yourselves could not give me.

The verse is clearly saying that the reason of Epaphroditus sickness was due to his work and he risked his life for his service to God.

Therefore, we have the idea that his sickness is definitely not a punishment from God because he was at that moment actively in the service of God.

Surely his sickness was due to the weaknesses of the flesh or body, there is really some sickness that our body can’t overcome, so whether you are sinning or not, once your body is weak you’ve got to be sick.

That’s why the doctor said that once your immune system will get weaker your body cannot resist the virus anymore and therefore, you will be sick.

Bacteria will make you sick once your immune system has got lowered. So not all sickness are punishment of God or by Devil and surely the devil can’t punish to those who are in service of God.

1 John 5:18 We know that anyone born of God does not continue to sin; the One who was born of God keeps them safe, and the evil one cannot harm them.

Let us remove from our mind the thinking that sickness is punishment.

Although there is sickness that is an outcome of evil doings but if you are not doing anything evil, so whatever sickness you have it’s nothing to do with God.

The most common possibilities if from where you got your sickness is from virus or bacteria carried by the wind in the environment, or maybe weaknesses of the body, over fatigue, or in many ways that sometimes you have forsaken your health due to some unavoidable circumstances.

There are many instances that you need to work more than your capacity because of some obligations like church activities and many more that you will be forced to sleep late and wake up early in order to finish the important task.

Thereby, if ever you will be sick from your extra work with regard to church services, of course your sickness will definitely not a punishment from God but plainly due to weaknesses of the body.

 

It doesn’t matter if how you ask it from God, no matter how you pray it to God, if he already had set it, you can’t avoid it anymore. What God wants to happen will happen and no one can stop him.

Deuteronomy 32:39 “‘See now that I, even I, am he, and there is no god beside me; I kill and I make alive; I wound and I heal; and there is none that can deliver out of my hand.

Sometimes incurable diseases or sicknesses can be experienced by God’s servants for this is his ways of giving them rest, because here on earth is not the final destination, there is a what we called heaven.

Those who died are only taking a rest and later God will awake them to rise and live eternally.

Lazarus died also because of sickness but he died worthy for God.

Read Luke 16:19 “There was a rich man who was dressed in purple and fine linen and lived in luxury every day.

20 At his gate was laid a beggar named Lazarus, covered with sores

21 and longing to eat what fell from the rich man’s table. Even the dogs came and licked his sores.

22 “The time came when the beggar died and the angels carried him to Abraham’s side. The rich man also died and was buried.

23 In Hades, where he was in torment, he looked up and saw Abraham far away, with Lazarus by his side.

24 So he called to him, ‘Father Abraham, have pity on me and send Lazarus to dip the tip of his finger in water and cool my tongue, because I am in agony in this fire.’

25 “But Abraham replied, ‘Son, remember that in your lifetime you received your good things, while Lazarus received bad things, but now he is comforted here and you are in agony.

If we look at the life of Lazarus, he is a man of God, that’s why when he died he was taken to the bosom of Abraham by the angels but still he died with a severe sickness.

So in the case of Lazarus we can clearly see that sometimes God will use the sickness as his way of giving them rest.

Many instances in the record of the bible that God’s servant were given rest through sickness. Why?

Isaiah 57:1 The righteous perish, and no one takes it to heart; the devout are taken away, and no one understands that the righteous are taken away to be spared from evil.

God had seen that there is something bad that will happen to his servants that’s why he just took them for rest, in order to save him from the evil to come.

Therefore, many of the righteous people in the eyes of God and men, still died early in life because God who is powerful had seen the worst thing that will happen to them, hence, God took them instead.

In the bible there are two kinds of death to men, one of them is precious to God.

Probably, God had seen that there is something bad that will happen that’s why he just took them for rest.

Therefore, even those righteous people in the eyes of God and men they died because there might be something worst that will happen to their lives, so God takes them instead.

That’s why the bible said that there are two kinds of death to men, one of them is precious to God

Psalms 116:15 Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of his faithful servants.

So when his faithful servants died it’s precious for him but there is also a death that God is not pleased.

Ezekiel 33:11 Say to them, ‘As surely as I live, declares the Sovereign Lord, I take no pleasure in the death of the wicked, but rather that they turn from their ways and live.

Turn! Turn from your evil ways! Why will you die, people of Israel?’

God has no pleasure in the death of the wicked, but if the righteous will die he is pleased.

Again when the righteous dies, it only means giving them rest for their works.

Revelation 14:13 Then I heard a voice from heaven say, “Write this: Blessed are the dead who die in the Lord from now on.”

“Yes,” says the Spirit, “they will rest from their labor, for their deeds will follow them.”

God knows what is best for us, so no matter how we plead God to heal our sickness, if God has already appointed it, we can’t avoid it.

One of the reasons why God let the people rest and through death so that they can take a rest of their labors.

So we should prepare ourselves when that time comes when we already have some sickness or disease that can lead us to die we should make ourselves ready.

Specially when we are old already, the most common possibility if we die is that God will make us rest of all our labors. No matter how you call God, you plead to him, in whatever ways you asked God, when God has appointed it, you can’t avoid it.

We don’t have the power over the day of our death for it is appointed by God.

Hebrews 9:27 Just as people are destined to die once, and after that to face judgment,

All we have to do is to prepare ourselves for it, as death is appointed then after that is the judgment.

If we can’t escape from death same thing with judgment we too can’t escape it for he already proved to us that we all die and no one can dispute it, so the coming judgment is also indisputable.

The richest man in the world will die, Presidents will die, children will die, doctors will die, scientist will die, kings will die, etc.

Whoever you are, you can’t refuse once God will call you to rest, and even you try to escape from him and fly to the moon to hide, you will still die in there to the appointed time of God.

So all of us whether young or old, healthy and strong, with covid or not, if it’s not yet the time appointed by God for you, you will not die yet, but even if you are the healthiest man in the world if your time to rest will come you will die and can’t escape it.

Deuteronomy 32:39 “See now that I myself am he! There is no god besides me. I put to death and I bring to life, I have wounded and I will heal, and no one can deliver out of my hand.

The Lord said, ‘No one can deliver out of my hand’ What we can do is just to pray that he will have mercy on us.

If it’s not yet the time set by God, even if the doctor will say that you will not last for a day anymore, if it’s not yet your time you can recover and can even lengthen your life for more years.

But if it’s the time already appointed by God for you, even if you are in the most healthy condition, even if you are in the very true religion, you can’t stop it anymore.

Death is an appointment of God and it’s the sign that God will judge and we can’t escape from it just like that we can’t avoid death we can’t as well evade the judgment.

Thereby, right now we start serving God before we will die because whether we like it or not we will all experience death then after that we’ll be waiting for the judgment.

Therefore, no one can deliver out of God’s hand, what we can do is to prepare ourselves and pray to God, if he will have mercy and if it’s not yet the time set by him for us, even if our sickness is declared incurable, if God would like you to be healed because it’s not yet your time, you can still recover and live for more years.

However, it doesn’t mean you will live forever, you will still finally die later by God’s appointed time.

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Why we fall in love?

The very reason why people are attracted to love each other is because of their companionship.

Most commonly it can happen when they frequently meet each other due to some situations like working in the same company, studying in the same school, living with the house close to each other or neighbors, etc.

But still it becomes a big question of all, Why we fall in love?

It’s not realistic to believe in the saying ‘love at first sight’ but there are situations that you thought you fall in love from your very first sight.

It’s probably because you have met the one type of person which you had seen before and from then it was registered in your mind to be your best choice.

Thereby, as soon as you meet with the same kind of type, your mind and subconscious are triggered to feel an awesome feeling towards them, since he or she is the kind that you have been looking for.

Yet still, you can’t consider it as love at first sight, it might be just an admiration which will soon be transforming into a real feeling of love, once you will find out that you have a bigger chances of being loved too.

That’s the reason why the first acquaintance could not be considered real love for once you know that you’re the only one who is feeling that way, right there and then you will start to realize that what you’re feeling was not right and should not be kept for long.

There are anyway, some instances that from first meeting you fall in love and because of the lucky coincidences that she happened to also like you then you have proven it by yourself that there is really an existing ‘love at first sight.’

Therefore, in every situation there is an exemption, there are really some mysterious things that happened in our life that only those who experienced can explain it, because there are reasons behind it all.

What are those reasons? That is what you will be discovering when you continue reading this content.

Make sure you read up to the end in order for you to learn about love scientifically and biblically.

Reason number 1

Is there something happening inside our brain when we fall in love?

Every time we feel like falling in love, there is some part of our brain that is activated and creating extra activities to make your mind more active in thinking than before.

When women will fall in love, their hippocampus, are actively functioning to send message to the memory and therefore, women who are in love are always thinking of the men because of the increased memory that will keep on reminding the feeling they have felt.

What is hippocampus?

It’s the region of the brain that is associated primarily with memory.

The hippocampus is thought to be principally involved in storing long-term memories and in making those memories resistant to forgetting.

It is also thought to play an important role in spatial processing and navigation.

While men who are in love, they too have such almost the same feeling due to the visual cortex that is why when men are in love they tend to always think of the women for they have always seen the one they love in their mind.

What is visual cortex?

Region of the brain that processes visual information.

Whenever you are in the stage of being attracted with a person, your dopamine will be released by your brain and started to produce oxytocin, then as a result you will end up having an unexplained feeling of happiness.

Therefore, most people who have partners or lovers will have very much higher production of oxytocin compared to those who are not in a relationship.

What is oxytocin?

Oxytocin is a hormone that functions as a neurotransmitter in the brain.

It’s thought to be a driving force behind attraction and care giving, and even controls key aspects of the reproductive system, childbirth, and lactation.

Reason number 2

Once you fall in love, there is something that will happen to your body which you didn’t experience before.

A person who is in love will have a special effect in the body which is to have a strong force of energy that resulted into a huge flow of good feelings chemicals that is converted into a certain physical as well as a little of mental reaction about the feelings towards another person.

There is a feeling or state of intense excitement and happiness whenever you are in love.

Why do people have an intense excitement and happiness whenever they are in love?

There are actually many reasons behind it, there is spiritual, there is physical, and even there is scientific.

So if we talk about science, falling in love doesn’t mean about the other person whom you are in love but it’s merely due to hormones, which is believable in other ways but not supported by some specially of those who experienced already about what is falling love, because for them it is just the chemical in the brain that is responsible for making you and giving you such wonderful feeling.

Reason number 3

 

What effects can falling in love do to our body?

Once you are in love, your blood pressure will get lowered, because your mind and body is at a relax situation and therefore, you will have a good mood no matter how stressful the day is.

There are situations that you feel little stress as well specially if you expect their presence and you are disappointed, but it will all depend upon what stage are you with your relationship whether you’ve just started or for already a little longer time.

You will feel more stable and safe, however, there is another reason for feeling a little stress, because being in love, you will feel a little anxious about the one you love specially if you’re not together.

Reason number 4

 

How exactly is the feeling of being in love?

Being in love will have different effects in every person, so we can’t tell that what they experienced will be the same as the others.

Usually, when falling in love there is a way that will lead to a psychological and emotional instability.

You will be either experiencing lack of appetite, on and off sleep, euphoria, sudden increased of energy, heart beats faster than normal, feeling of anxiety, lack of concentration, looking at things without directions.

You are always hoping that the person whom you fall in love will suddenly come, you always like to be fresh and fragrant, always looking at the mirror making sure you are at your best look, always looking at the phone if there is any message coming from them, and many, many more exciting feeling of happiness.

Reason number 5

Is there a revealing signs of the person who is falling in love?

Those who are falling in love will normally show an unusual reaction, which is noticeable to their settings of priorities, daily normal routine will be changed, clothing or attires will be unique, frequently taking a bath, and brushing teeth more than the usual, just for the preparation of their meetings or dates.

Upon waking up in the morning he or she is the first person you will remember and even going to sleep he or she is the last person you will be thinking.

You will be thinking of some future imagination about your future sweet togetherness, and many more signs which only those who are in love can understand.

So all those few amazing feelings are just some examples and signs that you are in love.

Reason number 6

Is it possible to fall in love with the right person?

Definitely almost all impossible have the chances to become possible, if you try to look closely about the word ‘Impossible’ it is just saying, ‘I am possible.’

So falling in love with the right person is possible, and that is what made the falling in love a wonderful feeling, because you have fallen in love with the one who is also falling in love with you.

Although, it’s not easy to figure out in the beginning whether it’s the right one or not, that even your own feelings towards the person is also not 100% sure if what really you have experienced for it might be just a lust or it’s really a genuine one.

Try to look back on some paragraphs above about the signs and collect them to your own situations and then you will have a little guide about the signs that you have if it matches with your experience.

Then it will be easier for you to determine whether your situation of being in love is a true feeling or just a mere fling.

Reason number 7

To love is nothing, to be loved is something, and to love and be loved is everything.

We human being have hearts, but we need to put an emotion in it as well or else we can’t be human at all.

Everyone has his story of his life specially about love life, but when it comes to falling in love, there is no much better story than that, therefore, the most beautiful one is only about love specially when it is forever.

Most of us have fallen in love by chance, but once we stay in love that is our own choice.

Yes, we all make mistakes because that is part of our life, but you are never mistaken if you fall in love.

There is nothing wrong with loving in a right way, because the author of it all is our creator who teach us to love by loving us first. We learn how to love because God first loved us.

1 John 4:19We love because he first loved us.

The awesome feeling of love had originated from God as a matter of fact God is our first love. (Revelation 2:4)

Revelation 2:5 Remember therefore from where you have fallen; repent and do the first works, or else I will come to you quickly and remove your lamp stand from its place—unless you repent.

Revelation 2:4 Nevertheless I have this against you, that you have left your first love.

There is nothing wrong of loving because to love is a sign that you are of God and God is with you.

1 John 4:16-18 God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them.

We are actually being instructed to love one another for love is of God, and once we have love in our hearts that means you know God for if we don’t love means we don’t know God for GOD IS LOVE.

1 John 4:7-8 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God.

8 He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.

We human being have two hearts, one is physical and the other one is spiritual.

Your physical heart has nothing to do with your feeling, that’s why even if doctor will remove it once it’s  defective and transplant it with a different one, it won’t change with the feeling with your previous heart that was removed.

In other words, if you were in love, you will still be in love even though you already change your heart, because the heart that gives you emotion is the spiritual heart which is your second heart, and that heart has eyes to see spiritual things.

Many people have failed in explaining things with regards to love, because they are only focusing on physical heart and brain’s function towards feelings.

Once again, we learn to love because we are taught by God who is the first one who loved us because God is love.

God gave us that spiritual heart to love not to hate, and that is what God means when he said in the book of: Matthew 5:8 Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.

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Depression is first of all defined as a mood disorder that causes a persistent feeling of loneliness, sadness, loss of interest, etc.,

Most of the common symptoms of it are noticeable because it can be observed and seen by the behavior of the person having it, and the most common symptoms are:

-Loss of interest in even pleasurable or funny activities.

-Having issues about sleeping.

-Countenance is always sad.

-easily get angry and irritable.

-Has trouble in focusing or in concentration.

-Always aloft from friends or colleagues.

-Always anxious and sharing negative thoughts to others or colleagues.

-delirium or having difficulty in communication, especially finding the right words to say.

-Having a mood swings, wants to be isolated, no vigor or energy, etc.,

 

But there are situations that people have never shown any symptoms but because of a sudden incident, like death of loved ones, loss of a job, ending a relationship are some experiences which are really very difficult to endure.

To feel sad or grief is just a normal feeling to be felt by someone who experiences such situations.

But to be sad or depressed are not the same, because it’s just a normal reaction for people who loss their loved ones, loss their jobs, relationships with lovers are ended, they naturally feel extreme sadness but not to the point of being depressed.

Everyone of course would feel sad with those situations, but few people can’t handle them and they are the ones whom we call the depressed, because they are thinking that it’s already the end of their world and there is no more happiness a head of them as they thought.

Therefore, it’s good for us to stay hopeful no matter what happens, we have to find some inspirations other than what we thought the only one, because if you stick only to it, then if you lose them you will lose everything.

So it is so nice to feel and to imagine, that even without them we became nothing, but with God we can still have everything.

How to overcome depression and anxiety when it comes to biblical ways?

People who truly believe in God can feel sadness but they are never depressed, specially the Christians who are the faithful servants of God will never suffer this sickness, because by faith all depressions and anxieties are being relieved and of course can all be overcome in life.

As the bible is giving this inspirational verse of the:

Philippians 4:6-7 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;

7 and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

The story of the rich man and Lazarus is one of the best examples about a person that deserves to be depressed, because Lazarus is a beggar, he has nothing, no home of his own, no money, he got sores in his body,

in other words all sorts of hardships are in him, all sorts of anxieties were with him but he was never depressed because of his faith that there is God who will comfort him with all his hardships.

So let’s pick a bit of his story from the bible.

Luke 16:19-22 “There was a certain rich man who was clothed in purple and fine linen and fared sumptuously every day.

20 But there was a certain beggar named Lazarus, full of sores, who was laid at his gate,

21 desiring to be fed with the crumbs which fell from the rich man’s table. Moreover, the dogs came and licked his sores.

22 So it was that the beggar died, and was carried by the angels to Abraham’s bosom. The rich man also died and was buried.

23 And being in torments in Hades, he lifted up his eyes and saw Abraham afar off, and Lazarus in his bosom.

²⁴ So he called to him, ‘Father Abraham, have pity on me and send Lazarus to dip the tip of his finger in water and cool my tongue, because I am in agony in this fire.’

²⁵ “But Abraham replied, ‘Son, remember that in your lifetime you received your good things, while Lazarus received bad things, but now he is comforted here and you are in agony.

²⁶ And besides all this, between us and you a great chasm has been set in place, so that those who want to go from here to you cannot, nor can anyone cross over from there to us.’

²⁷ “He answered, ‘Then I beg you, father, send Lazarus to my family,

²⁸ for I have five brothers. Let him warn them, so that they will not also come to this place of torment.’

²⁹ “Abraham replied, ‘They have Moses and the Prophets; let them listen to them.’

³⁰ “‘No, father Abraham,’ he said, ‘but if someone from the dead goes to them, they will repent.’

³¹ “He said to him, ‘If they do not listen to Moses and the Prophets, they will not be convinced even if someone rises from the dead.’’

Whatever honor or the prestige attached on our being, will not matter anymore when God calls us to rest, so all our professions, educations, wealth, and everything will not count when we face death for it is a decree of God that we must all die once and after that there will be judgment.

Hebrew 9:27 Just as people are destined to die once, and after that to face judgment,

All deaths can be stopped by God but because of the free will he gave to everyone of us, he just allow you to die if you wish to kill yourself but you are sinning against him for doing it, because he has some other plans for you, that’s why he is supposed to be appointing a time for your rest to be which you made in advance once you commit suicide.

So everything that happens is with permission by God but not all is of his desire for he allowed it to happen because of your free will, so if don’t like to obey then, there are consequences of it during judgment.

So none of us will stay here forever, for we will all live once and will die once.

But the good thing for those who believe in God, he promised to us another life that is to come, as the bible is telling us good news that there is a world to come or the eternal life.

And this is what made Lazarus became inspired, because he knew it all and hereby, he didn’t mind all anxieties in life.

He is once again a beggar full of sores and when dogs are licking it, of course that must very be painful, but there is no record in the bible that he complained.

He lived his whole life as a beggar, he didn’t become a millionaire, and there is no record that his sores got healed to alleviate his sufferings.

He died to his appointed time with all the hardships and misfortune in life.

Lazarus believed in God, Lazarus has faith that’s why when he died he was taken by the angels into Abraham’s bosom.

What does that mean? He will have eternal life. Like the thief in the cross which suffered with our lord Jesus Christ. He said in the verse below.

Luke 23:42-43 Then he said, “Jesus, remember me when you come into your kingdom.”

43 Jesus answered him, “Truly I tell you, today you will be with me in paradise.”

The lord promised him to be taken to paradise, our life is not ended here, if you are worried about dying, then depression will come but if you are preparing to die, then it will not be very hard for you to accept any misfortune or even deaths from loved ones, for it is God who wills it all, for everyone will die to God’s appointed time.

The living knows that they are going die because it is appointed unto men once to die.

There are people who died at the very young age but there is something we must understand of dying.

The words of God from the bible is saying like this in:

Isaiah 57:1 The righteous perish, and no one takes it to heart; the devout are taken away, and no one understands that the righteous are taken away to be spared from evil.

If you are a righteous person God will cause your death, you will be taken away but there are people who will not understand God’s will.

God who knows everything is a merciful God and a loving God, he may take your life earlier than others because he can see the evil that is to come that’s why if we are reaching that point in life that we are told that we are going to die very soon let us accept the will of our lord our creator we are not intended by God to live forever on earth he promised a paradise a very beautiful place of tranquility living eternally with our creator and that must be our point of view in life to be saved and to be with God in paradise because our story will not end here on earth if you only think about things on earth you will be disgusted you’ll be suffering from anxiety but God has told us in the book of:

Philippians 4:6-7 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;

7 and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

The peace of God surpasses all understanding of the physicians, doctors or whoever that popular people that claimed to be the best advisers, they are nothing compared to what God can do.

Sometimes the doctors, surgeon, physicians may contribute your depression because the doctor will say you only will live for 3 months or so, but if you trust in God, the peace of God which passes all understanding will keep your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus, and then, you will be free from anxiety or to suicidal tendencies.

Dying which is prepared to face your creator, is something like graduating from a university with honors.

You know that you are leaving the university but you are glad that you are leaving with honors because you have finished your course, dying is just like finishing your course if you are a believer of God and Christ.

So that is something we must not fear but something we have to cherish, to die in Christ is to live forever according to the bible.

I know that it’s not easy for everybody to accept but it is in the bible, so we have to accept it that we will all die but we have to wait for God’s appointed time for us.

Ecclesiastes 9:5 All living persons on earth have that premonition that they are going to die but let’s not be governed by fear because we will only die when God wills us to die that our trust because Jesus Christ guaranteed that in:

Matthew 10:29-31 Are not two sparrows sold for a copper coin? And not one of them falls to the ground apart from your Father’s will.

30 But the very hairs of your head are all numbered.

31 Do not fear therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows.

Two small birds are sold for a cent, you can just imagine small birds will not die without the will of the father more so a human being which is more important than all birds that exist, human beings like us are very important to GOD, when the Lord Jesus Christ said,

Mark 8:36 For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul?

37 Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul?

The whole world is not enough to save your soul, meaning your soul is more important than the whole world according to the bible.

Are we going to die as human being without the will of the father of course not, because even sparrows will not fall to the ground without the will of the father even if you are a sharp shooter and you are trying to shoot a sparrow the sparrow might escape the bullet because it’s not yet the will of God as we had just read it on the bible verses above.

Not one of us will die without the consent of the Father we must not be pre- occupied about death what we should be pre- occupied is if what is coming after death and it will give us peace of mind if we die in faith in our God and in our lord JESUS Christ

The people who lose hope in life are those without faith in God because those who have faith no matter what will happen they will never lose hope, for the hope that is in them is until the end

Hebrews 3:6 But Christ is faithful as the Son over God’s house. And we are his house, if indeed we hold firmly to our confidence and the hope in which we glory.

If you have Christ in you, your hope is up to the end. The verse said that we are the house of Christ, if Christ is in us you will not lose hope so those who lose hope have no Christ in them, for if you have Christ in you, the Christ is dwelling inside you, if you have the spirit of Christ you will never lose hope because Christ is hope and that hope will be until he comes back.

Titus 2:13 while we wait for the blessed hope—the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ,

The blessed of hope should be staying with us until his appearance again

As the verse said that we should wait the blessed hope and the glorious appearing of the great God and our savior Jesus Christ so those that have Christ in life will not lose hope they continue to do good things up to the last moment of their lives.

1 John 3:3 And everyone who has this hope in Him purifies himself, just as He is pure.

So you should not commit suicide for this is not what God wants you to do to your life.

Those who did it are just showing us a sign that they don’t have true God in their lives.

If you have known God you will never commit suicide, because you have the everlasting, and never ending hope which is in Christ Jesus Amen.

I hope that with God’s help I have shared to you something that will add hope in your life and peace in your mind.

If you have any questions feel free to write them below, and I will be more than happy to hear it.

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Francisco,

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Whichever company you will work, you will always encounter some difficult people to work with.

Such people may not cause any complete misery at work, but its effects, could matter a lot in your way of managing with those kinds of co-workers, and therefore, it can significantly disturb your focus on dealing with both physical and emotional well- being.

No matter what we do, whether we like it or not, we can’t avoid difficult people.

Therefore, it is great to know how to deal with difficult people in the workplace.

You will be encountering them, for people tend to be difficult specially if they don’t understand yet their role in the workplace.

Sometimes, we are given the chance to choose with whom to work with, but most of the time we don’t have any choice but to deal or to adjust in order to keep a long well with those types of people.

Every working experience in the workplace, will teach us something about the behavior of people who are working with you.

It’s a very challenging task and will take a lot of patience in when you dealt with difficult people and motivating them with compassion and understanding.

So if you are able to successfully manage them to follow your way, then it can make you a better leader and co-worker.

We can really encounter difficult people in every workplace, but most of those people will be manageable as long as you know how to deal with them.

But the biggest problem of those kinds of people, they don’t work as promised, their focus is always on what time they are going to finish, so their output of work is affected for these people become tired and lazy about their job.

Sometimes, we can ask ourselves, why these people become difficult, and once difficult, automatically, these people are not reliable but irresponsible, because they don’t care about something. Therefore, these people’s attitude become aggravated because there will be nobody who would like to work with them.

But since they are everywhere then can’t be avoided or hidden from your very sight.

If it’s only one or two, it might be easier to deal but what if are more which is definitely more.

Instead of making yourself do a final decisions on how to face such people, why don’t you make yourself loaded with all the skills that you’ve learnt on how to dealt with them?

We ourselves have needed to be checked as well for we might be having such kind of problem which is not easy to be handled.

Handling such cases like dealing with difficult people is not an easy task and it requires a lot of patience and skills because we have to do it efficiently and professionally with making it to cause trouble within the workplace.

Most employees with difficult traits are so reactive even on the smallest wrong action and reaction that occurred. Therefore, they mostly overreacted in any way they could.

The most important and most difficult step to take in resolving a problem specially in regard to your contribution in fixing issues about the matter of performance.

Problems on employees with difficult traits, they are so reactive even on the smallest wrong action and reaction that happens. Therefore, they are overreacted in any way.

-Know how to empathize.

It’s good to be considerate to people, so instead of being defensive and judgmental, try to look the whole picture of a person as human being which is liable to err.

Try to figure out his history, if where is she or he coming from, and what are their point of view about their situation, there might be something which they have not obtained that caused them to be troubled.

We are only observant around the workplace and we spend time with every person who has this problem, we might learn it easily and then we can start looking for solution on how to resolve this issue.

The more we know ourselves is the more patience we have for others, and if we apply the same regard to ourselves then we can be more considerate with everyone.

So the focus should be on how we can help them be taken out from such situation which is affecting their performance.

We should not judge them with their first offense however, we should investigate them on why they are like that? And what caused them to be that way?

By doing so, you will be teaching them to realize that they have done something unusual that needed to be changed, and then they will start to be not anymore difficult to dealt with automatically.

-There should be no any personal matters involve in dealing with difficult people.

We need to make sure that our facial expression and our non-verbal behaviors will not be misinterpreted that we seemed have a personal problem with them.

Our goal is to make them realize and learn that they are not doing the right thing as employee, and we need to at least gradually educate and train them in the nicest way as possible so that we can change to what really should be is the proper way of communicating, talking, and what is the role of an employee of the company.

Sometimes, there are behaviors that we don’t appreciate, but those behaviors have to be observed, because, we don’t know exactly what is happening around, there might be something personal that they are struggling to deal with or something else which we will only know once it’s being shared.

So once again it is so vital that we being the one to handle such people, we should always not forget to be patient and kind with them in order to properly correct them without causing any trouble but with the full acceptance of the way.

-Find the solution.

There is no problem that has no solution or else if there is none then it’s not a problem anymore but a reality.

When you feel that things are getting tougher, try to find out how to get our of there, make a challenge of yourself to be focusing only on solutions not a problem.

It’s definitely not easy, but if you approach it with curiosity, you will learn the deeper part of it.

Listening is very important, be open-minded and not judgmental, you are going to find it that things are just simple it’s just us that insisted and made it difficult.

Ask if there is any problem between you or the other colleagues and make them understand that they need time to adjust specially if nobody from their whole lives have used this way of dealing with them.

-Be of a forward-looking in order to view a wider understanding of a thing.

It is inevitable that when we are being shouted or yelled the tendency is we will be triggered to feel upset as our first sudden reaction of the situation. Thereby, if we start to feel angry with someone, before we say or do something, we might regret at the end, we need to have a deeper breath and to come down.

The more we put off our feelings is the more we can figure out what really is happening, and the way we handle issue, can be of a better outcome because slowing down ourselves will reduce our temper and a possible big problem can be avoided.

So always avoid thinking negative conclusion right away. However, show up with more ways in analyzing the situation before judging.

Never personalized other people’s characteristics, try to look at them with wider consideration in order to avoid possible misunderstanding.

Be always encouraged by your career plans and wishes, figure out what you need to accomplish for the coming years, be aware about individual roles specially those working with you.

-Relax yourself no matter what happens

Having no control of your temper will end up in a lot of negative reaction because angry countenance is contagious.

Showing that you are upset is not the good idea or strategy to make the person moved, and it’s better to be just calm so that you can be heard and understood well about your objective towards the person.

Person who is acting very calmly, can be seen as being in control, and you can gather more people to pay respect on you.

Everybody loves to work with people who are relaxed and calm rather than those who are impulsive and in a rush.

When they notice your calmness to situation even though they did something which is not appropriate, they will start to get their serious attention.

Respect people of who they are.

Respect others like how you want to be respected, the behavior you’ve shown will be returning to you.

So make sure, the treatment you’ve shown is pleasing to them, or else don’t be surprised that you will get exactly as you showed, as the famous verse of the bible written by Luke says:

Luke 6:31 Do to others as you would have them do to you.

Concentrate on what should be done.

Listening is one of the best ways in focusing yourself on how to deal with unreasonable people. Everyone wants that they are given attentions, the more they are being attended with their needs is the more they feel being recognized and acknowledge.

Give everyone your full attention, by listening to them actively, and be ready on what to say next.

Even when situation seems emotionally active, try to refrain from unusual breathing, which might be interpreted negatively and wrong by the surrounding people.

Nobody knows about everyone of us, we don’t know what other people be experiencing. Probably, if there is any unreasonable feelings we have shown, it will not do any help of the situation. However, it might even aggravate from easy to difficult situation.

Francisco,

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You are going to spend a lot of times at work therefore, you are going to be having more time spent with colleagues rather than anyone else in the world, which is sometimes more than the time spent with your family specially when you are working abroad.

It is therefore, necessary for you to have a good relationship with colleagues at work for you to show your professionalism toward anyone within your establishment.

Your working environment can be even better when you have a harmonious working relationship with your co-workers and then working can become a pleasure and enjoyable.

Actually it doesn’t need for you to be friends with your colleagues, but anyhow you should need to be friendly to them for at least you have initiated the best example on how to work well with colleagues, and then your working environment can be a happier place to be for all of you.

To get a long well with colleagues at work doesn’t need that you should all be friends but at least you can demonstrate a respectful behavior towards one another.

How to do it? You should try to be open to them, be cooperative and helpful, and try to avoid doing anything which is offensive and hateful.

learn to observe things around you, always think of it that they are not your family and you are not at home, so never forget to clean up after yourself, be always a useful worker not a burden, avoid being late which can cause inconvenience of your other colleagues who can be overloaded with work as the result of your tardiness.

In other words, avoid anything that is disgusting and irritating, because it will cause them to feel of not being comfortable working with you for they will count you as not a help of the team but a burden.

* Those who gossip can not be trusted with a secret.

Nobody likes anybody who is talking behind someone else’ back, so even you yourself don’t like it so don’t do what you don’t like other to do unto you that is just as simple as that.

Some people are garrulous while others are secretive. Once encounter any of your colleagues who is mentioning you something which is confidential never ever disclose it to anyone. Sometimes, your colleagues shared some confidential information because he is trusting you and don’t disappoint them.

-Try to be nice with the difficult colleague.

There is no difficult colleagues to deal with, if you only knew how to deal with them.

Sometimes, there is just something that colleagues don’t understand about operation, because most difficult people are really not happy with what they are doing, they have set their minds into just one direction, and their way of thinking things are mostly opposite than those who are enjoying what they are doing.

To be a happy worker is contagious, if you show your co- workers such attitude of being considerate and cooperative plus to be being happy while working, in this way you have made those difficult people realize that there’s may be something wrong with them for why some of their colleagues have different view of life, for why you are able to be happy considering you are doing the same tasks.

Working in the same company specially with the same area, it is so uncomfortable to be working with someone whom you don’t like, and the first way to make them like you is to like them first, for while you are showing kindness even to those difficult colleagues, you have trained them how to be kind to anyone, and later you will turn that difficult co-worker into an easy and a good partner at work.

-Be courteous even your colleagues are not.

By saying a good morning to them is already a big factor for educating them on how to show courtesy towards one another.

You may not expect them to be genuine with how they respond when you say good morning but at least you have shown to them how great it be when somebody is noticing you that you are around.

It is so important for us to have the habit while at work to be smiling always and greet everyone as you come in the morning to begin your work and say goodbye as you leave.

It’s a big magic effect that even though it’s just a simple courtesy towards others but it’s creating a big impact to your relationship with one another in your workplace area.

-Be approachable and be open with jokes to your colleagues.

Some co-workers like to crack with jokes to tease you in any ways sometimes about your way of actions, don’t get angry with them for this is one of the signs that they feel comfortable working with you, not unless if the joke is very personal and not acceptable then you have the right to tell them to stop for you don’t like it, but other than that, you should always make them welcome to you.

Show to them that you like some jokes as well for it’s good to have fun while working so that the time will run a little faster.

-You may share your colleagues about your observation at the same time you can ask them how they think.

Most people love to be asked about their point of view in your working place, and you can ask them their opinions about how to improve things for the better.

Then you talk about how what is the best things to do then all of you will exchange your ideas then decide which one is to be applied in your working environment in order for you to have a more harmonious relationship as co-workers of the same area of responsibility.

-Let your colleagues talk and listen attentively.

There are many ways in which you can ask your colleagues even their personal interests, their hobbies, their likes and dislikes, etc.,

Engaging into talks will make them feel comfortable working with you and it will make them also to like you for what you are, because you have initiated this thing so you will get as how you have shown to them like the kindness and sincerity which they have experience with you

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-Be a team player.

Once remove the team from teamwork you will have only the work and of course nobody likes it, and of course why should you remove it?

There is no easy job, as the bigger is your salary is the bigger is the responsibility so, it is normal that most work will never bring you any comfort but most depending upon your thinking but some workers consider it as stressful.

There are different levels of stress in work so no matter what is your position as long your not the owner you will always have stress with it.

The bigger the pay the bigger is the stress and that’s how it is whether you like it or not.

The only way to minimize stress Is to work together with good relationship with one another so that you will not notice the stress of it.

-Build a strong relationship with your colleagues.

It’s not easy to build a strong bond for it needs time, and the starting point of it be when you started your very first day in your job.

So try to catch a good first impression for first will last. Try to be friendly to everybody around you.

Once feel that it’s difficult for you start initiate a rather small talk with them, at least you will show your smile through your eyes that is throwing a genuine one and surely it will come back to you.

-It is your responsibility to look for ways on how to deal with difficult co-worker.

You can’t deal with them if your basis is how they deal with you, that’s the reason why you should know how to deal with them because you are the first one to do it, and then chances are, by the good attitude that you have shown, you can convince them to become good as what you like them to be.

Irrespective of how disgusting they are for you, look for ways to keep a long with them, in order for you to have a quite favorable working environment.

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Excellent office etiquette is very useful.

Good attitude and proper behavior is very vital on a job, and you should be aware of it and always remember specially when you are surrounded by your co-workers, so be nice to them no matter what happens.

One of the most important words that needs to be used while working with different people of different nationalities is the popular and the most accepted which is “please.”

No matter how lazy is the person but once he hears this word he will be moved to do it willingly because of the way it is applied in an instruction or order, so be polite to them as much as possible and you will meet your desired expectation.

So be mindful about proper table etiquette and manners when eating with your co-workers.

Try to avoid coughing for this might disturb them, and set your phone to silent, and be just a listener more than the talker.

-Be helpful and kind towards your co-workers.

It is a must to be helpful to your colleagues all the time, and to show kindness to them all.

It never happened that a kind and broad-minded person had encountered any incident of a serious argument because nobody can afford dispute a person who is nice and kind to everyone.

Just maintain your professional behavior towards all, and be helpful as much as possible, and never wait to be told to things however, initiate to take action towards the possible solution.

Gossiping is the most hateful and disgusting sort of things to happen in any organization so be always mindful, that you don’t talk about other people with some other people not unless it is a positive comment that will please to the particular person who became the center of the talking.

Spreading gossip had caused a lot of trouble in many places where there are people working together.

That’s why no matter how sure you are about the information shared to you, never share it to anyone unless you are told to do so specially when it is about advertisement.

So the only exemption where you are allowed to share information to other people be when it is about promoting your companies business, because word of mouth is one of the cheapest advertisement so only in this case sharing information is allowed.

I hope you learn good things about getting a long well with colleagues at work, and if you have any questions, or maybe suggestions, I will be more than happy to hear it.

Francisco,

Founder of Bookworm Website or franciscorondinalaurito.com

Who made the rich and the poor?

Proverbs 22:2 The rich and poor meet together: the Lord is the maker of them all.

The intention of God for making rich and the poor is so that they will be together, as it is said in the verse above that the rich and poor are meeting together, and it’s God who created them all.

Some are asking, why are they not equal to each other that there are rich and poor, why not making all of them just rich?

The answer of the question, Why I am poor? is that, it’s not good for them to be the same, why?

God who created them all has a purpose of not making them all the same as rich or poor.

The reason why people are not of the same state as some are rich and some are poor, because there are things that rich don’t like to do and there are things that poor should do.

If we are all rich like millionaires, who will be our farmers, our janitors, our helpers, our plumbers, carpenters, etc.?

If we are all millionaires, who will work for us?

Who then can be our pilots in an airplane?

Who will be the captain of the ship?

Who will drive the bus for you?

Where can you hire waiters, supervisors, head waiters, even managers, etc., in a cruise lines?

Of course if we are all millionaires, we would like to be passengers or guests only, and who will serve us?

That’s the reason why there are rich and there are poor, and we don’t need to feel upset if we happen to be in the fate of a poor, as a matter of fact, there is on the other hand an advantage of being poor, because you can live more peacefully than of rich people.

There are many things we don’t know in the life of rich people, the big pressures they are carrying in their shoulders, they can’t walk around as normal as we are because they are hot in the eyes of bad people, for they know there is a big treasure or amount of money they can get from them as being very rich.

While if you are only poor, dwelling in an ordinary house, you don’t need to worry about any bad people that will desire to come to your house for they know they can get nothing, so the sleep of the poor is as restful as baby.

The second advantage of being poor is that you are closer to God, because almost every time of your life you are calling God for protection from any harm and sickness for you don’t have sufficient money if in case you need to go to doctors.

Your first approach for all your problems is God not anybody else, so naturally you are in close relationship with God if you are poor.

Why I can say that most rich are far away from God, anyway, not all of them but almost the majority.

Rich people’s first approach when they encounter any problems specially sickness is to call the doctor, they put all their trust in the doctor,

and they will only need God once the doctor will say that he can do nothing with their sickness and that’s the time the rich will start calling God as his last resort unlike to the poor that God is their first.

So the comparison between rich and poor is quite opposite, the rich can’t sleep restfully, while the poor can have a very restful one.

Ecclesiastes 5:12 The sleep of a laboring man is sweet, Whether he eats little or much; But the abundance of the rich will not permit him to sleep.

It is plainly said on the verse that the abundance of the rich will not permit him to sleep, so that is in exchange of being rich, they always fear that someone will harm them if given the chance.

If we are poor we don’t need to complain to God why we belong on this kind of situation, instead we have to thank God,

that we are poor for we might have not known God if we are rich just like what happened to a lot of rich people in our times that they have almost made their wealth as their God.

For this reason, that’s why it’s said in the bible that it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for the rich man to enter the kingdom of God.

Mark 10:25 It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.”

This is the word of God and I believe it’s true, because he knows how the rich are thinking and how the poor do.

Although not all poor, and not all rich but the majority who can enter into the kingdom of God are the poor since that is what God had said in the verse above.

Thereby, God has loved the poor more than the rich, for most poor people are relying only in what God can do in their lives.

Luke 6:20-21 Then He lifted up His eyes toward His disciples, and said: “Blessed are you poor,

For yours is the kingdom of God.

21 Blessed are you who hunger now, For you shall be filled. Blessed are you who weep now,

For you shall laugh.

Making the verses above as the basis for going to heaven, there are more poor people than can enter the kingdom of God compared to rich.

But what God had said about the rich people, let’s continue to the following verses, of the same chapter as the continuation of the verse pertaining to the rich.

Luke 6:24-25 “But woe to you who are rich, For you have received your consolation.

25 Woe to you who are full, For you shall hunger. Woe to you who laugh now, For you shall mourn and weep.

God said, Woe to you who are rich, meaning those rich who don’t believe in God, you have already received your consolation, woe to you who are full, for you shall hunger.

Woe to you who laugh now, for you shall mourn and weep, where? In the lake of fire as a result of not believing in God, for relying only on wealth which is temporal.

It’s very common for rich people that they’re thinking that they are very high already, they should not hear any little bad words against them or else the poor will be in trouble.

Some rich have diverted their faith instead to God but of the wealth and riches. Therefore, God said in this way for the rich.

Mark 10:24-25 And the disciples were astonished at His words. But Jesus answered again and said to them, “Children, how hard it is for those who trust in riches to enter the kingdom of God!

25 It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.”

So it’s really so difficult for the rich to enter the kingdom of God, if your hope is only with your wealth.

That’s why there is something nice set aside for the poor, so we don’t need to worry about it and we don’t need to question God why we are poor and why they are rich.

however, we have to thank God for who we are today for if not we might have been together with those who can hardly enter into the kingdom of God.

I myself is poor too, yet I am satisfied with what I have and even thankful for being poor as long as I am rich in the words of God which will make me easier that rich to enter the kingdom of God.

Once again the bible is not condemning the rich, but it’s only implying the possibility of entering the kingdom of God due to most of them have already forgotten him, yet some of them have not believed in the existence of God.

If we ask God if who can be saved, he said in,

1 Timothy 2:3-4 For this is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Savior,

4 who desires all men to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth.

So God’s desire is for all men to be saved meaning irrespective of who you are, he wants us all to be saved.

Actually, rich people will not become rich without being blessed by God, so it’s still God who made them rich, as it is said on this verse below,

Deuteronomy 8:18 “And you shall remember the Lord your God, for it is He who gives you power to get wealth, that He may establish His covenant which He swore to your fathers, as it is this day.

By reading the verse above we have the biblical support that it is God who gave the rich people the power to become rich.

Therefore, being rich is not a condemnation to go to hell, as long as you know how to handle your wealth.

No matter how rich you are, even if you think that everything you need in life can be answered by your money, you should still have to be humble of yourself and acknowledge that you can’t have them all without God who gave it to you.

Then put all your trust in the living God, and not in your wealth which you can’t carry with you when the time will come when God wants you to rest.

The last message of God for the rich as the conclusion of this article, can be read in the book of,

1 Timothy 6:17-19 Command those who are rich in this present age not to be haughty, nor to trust in uncertain riches but in the living God, who gives us richly all things to enjoy.

18 Let them do good, that they be rich in good works, ready to give, willing to share,

19 storing up for themselves a good foundation for the time to come, that they may lay hold on eternal life.

God’s message for the poor can be read in the book of Psalms written by King David about his experience from childhood to old age that he had never seen the righteous people being forsaken by God and none of them were beggars.

Psalms 37:25 I was young and now I am old, yet I have never seen the righteous forsaken or their children begging bread.

Psalms 145:16 You open your hand and satisfy the desires of every living thing.

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I hope you have learnt something about being poor and being rich in this article. If you have any questions, or suggestions, please feel free to write them below, and I will be more than happy to read it or answer if you have any questions about it.

Francisco,

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From the very beginning of most relationships, it’s so normal that couples are very sweet because their mindset is still focusing on the present situations where eagerness and excitement are in each other’s mind being newly married, but the case of those who are living together for long are of different ways.

The common question of all is, “how to keep a good relationship between husband and wife.”

Whether we like it or not the time will really come in the lives of couple, that they can feel something different from how they felt in the very beginning of their relationship.

There’s no one who can stop it, because it will surely come in a relationship, but the good thing of those who are wise enough in handling it, they have what they call in medical term as prophylactic, meaning they know how to prevent this to happen, because they have anticipated it that this will happen as the relationship is getting longer.

Relationship in the beginning is as fresh as any food but when we don’t do anything to keep it fresh for longer time, what will happen is that, it will get spoiled, and that is the same with relationship,

if we don’t have any idea about keeping it fresh then it is expected to do any changes after few months or years together.

There are really a lot of changes in a relationship as it is getting longer, because couples then will start to discover something from each other which are not known in the beginning of the relationship like behavior, attitude, styles, modes, etc..

It is not easy to keep a healthy relationship if you are living together for long, it can be either your partner or you will change into a not good habit which will be the cause of any arguments.

One of the best keys to a healthy relationship is the communication, and both partners should be aware about it to ensure that you are at the same page, and the same directions.

How to communicate with your partner?

Be honest an open with how you exactly feel. Tell your partner what you like and do not.

Be open with what can bother you and what can make you happy, and try to be specific about your emotion, your needs, and what you like in a partner.

Once you’re open with your partner, he will then also start to be the same, because it’s an expression of honesty towards your partner and it will teach him how to accept you of what you are in reality.

Anything that bothers you, must be expressed, but should be in a nicely way, in order for your voice to be heard well.

How to empathize with your partner?

A partner who is sharing and expressing his feelings without reservation, so means that he has fully entrusting you with the deeper part about himself, his is the kind of partner that deserves your best empathy, by showing him how much you care.

Embrace him with the reassurance that you really love, or you still love him as you did in the very beginning of your relationship.

Show your best of understanding about how he feels and thank him also for sharing his thoughts and feelings and most of all for being honest with you for everything.

Showing an empathy is one of the vital parts of any relationship, for the healthy one can be where both partners are honest and open with each other.

To treat each other with respect is equal to showing your partner a kindness which is not make believe, but a genuine or true feeling of love.

Be considerate by being appreciative with your partner.

Don’t forget to say thank you to your partner no matter how small or big is the thing that they do in your relationship.

So if your partner is doing something that makes you laugh, makes you happy, always find a way to show him how you appreciate everything, and in that way, you have filled his heart with an extreme joy.

Showing appreciation to your partner every day, will lead to a long term relationship, because it can help to protect and to make your relationship stronger and tighter.

However, it’s not a guarantee of course, that you will not be experiencing anymore some troubles and tests in a relationship but doing your best on how to be a good partner is a big help in keeping a good relationship.

Actively listen to what your partner is talking about.

Listening is one of the important factors in keeping a good relationship, for with a good communication, is rarely encountering difficult problems, and make sure that when your partner speaks, you need to listen with your full attention so that you can remember everything your partner is talking about.

And how you can make sure that you have heard and understood, what your partner is talking about.

Asking for the repetition for any unclear words directed for you is very important, so make sure when partner is talking, your steady attention together with eye contact are needed in order to obtain active listening to your partner.

Now and then you need to reaffirm and repeat to show to your partner that you are enthusiastic in understanding about his problems, and you will act like his supporter and comforter for whatever hardships and problems he encountered in our daily lives.

How to watch for a nonverbal sign from your partner? And what is nonverbal communication in marriage?

Nonverbal communication can’t be understood by just a blink of an eye, for in every simple words, whether negative or positive bodily gestures, eye contact with your partner, countenance of the face, etc., are all sorts of nonverbal communication, which commonly cause misinterpretation, misunderstanding, and troubles in a relationship.

So verbal and nonverbal are both essential in creating and maintaining a good relationship.

What be usually the reasons why nonverbal communication is playing a big role and becomes a necessity in a relationship?

In a relationship the nonverbal communication is giving as an idea how important it is for making the marriage relationship last for long.

The way you react, smile, behave, and even to a slight touch of the arm, etc., are all forms of a nonverbal communication, which can help so much in increasing the closeness of the relationship between your significant other and you.

That’s how sensitive it is, that our every move and actions can be a reason for a lasting relationship but sad to say it can also be the reason for unexpected separation if we don’t become conscious and careful with how you deal with it all.

But there are situations in a relationship that both partners are doing there best on how to be agreeable and compatible with each other but still the problems of separation seemed unstoppable.

So in this case you need to recognize someone who is higher than yourselves and even higher than your relationship.

So the big question remained unanswered which is, “how to keep a good relationship?”

One of the ways to keep a good relationship between husband and wife is to have a certain point where you both will agree with each other.

You are not the same with each other because you are two different individuals, you have different bodies, spirits, behavior, styles, attitude, etc., thereby, the bible is telling us that they are made into one body, or united into one flesh:

Matthew 19:5 And God said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and unite with his wife, and the two will become one.’

By the will of God, he wants that couples should be in one united flesh, and to make it in one, there should be a place where you can be attached into being a united one.

Husband and wife should have a point where both of them will be on agreement in one common direction, decision, or even judgment.

Hoseas 2:19-20 “I will betroth you to Me forever; Yes, I will betroth you to Me In righteousness and justice, In loving kindness and mercy;

20 I will betroth you to Me in faithfulness, And you shall know the Lord.

The very point of marriage is for you with the spouse in righteousness first of all, then in justice or judgment, in loving kindness and mercy, and in faithfulness.

Those are the points that couples should be on agreement with each other, and you will merit a kind of marriage which is durable, enduring, and lasting, then you can’t easily be separated once you have a point where both of you will agree in one common mind.

First of them all is the righteousness that you can be in one mind in what you will be doing, if the wife or husband doesn’t like you to always go with your friends, being in one mind you should not be doing this, and there will be no any arguments or misunderstanding will happen if both of you will cooperate and respect with each other’s judgment, because you have the basis which is the justice or judgment based from the bible.

Whether you like it or not, in a married life there is judgment in there, let’s cite a very simple example, you told to your wife that you will buy a motorcycle so that it will not be difficult for you to go here and there.

In such situation, you will be using a judgment, if your spouse will tell, we can’t afford it yet because we have some more important thing to prioritize so we better just sacrifice for a while until the right moment will come when we have enough to buy it already.

So being in one common mind both of you should be in one decision or judgment, and there will be no reason for you to be in trouble with it, because you agree with each other’s opinion.

Whenever, you feel like there’s something you don’t understand in a married life, you always have go back to your basis in keeping a good relationship which is to have a point of agreement where both of you need to cooperate, like in righteousness, justice or judgment, loving kindness or mercy, and faithfulness.

If you think that your spouse is right then why don’t you agree so that no argument will happen or you refer to your parents if you feel you need their advice, and being a loving husband or wife, if one of you will decide to seek advice from your trusted guardians, be willing to cooperate and then no quarrel or arguments will happen in your relationship.

Just be cooperative with what your partner is planning to do especially when it’s all about being kind to others, for example he likes to help someone who is in need, if you say yes to him then no misunderstanding will happen because you both have the same objective and the same point of agreement, for whether you like it or not that is the life of being married.

Once again always remember the five points that you should implant in your mind which is the most important thing that you should be on agreement with each other being married and in relationship.

Hoseas 2:19-20 “I will betroth you to Me forever; Yes, I will betroth you to Me In righteousness and justice, In loving kindness and mercy;

20 I will betroth you to Me in faithfulness, And you shall know the Lord.

Those are the five points that you need to always remember and there will be no any trouble that could easily move you if you have the righteousness justice or judgment, loving kindness and mercy, and faithfulness.

I hope you’ve learnt a bit about how to keep a good relationship between husband and wife.

If you have any comments or suggestions please feel free to write them below and I will be more than happy to hear it.

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What is really the reason behind the presence of jealousy in any relationship? and why do I get jealous so easily?

Before we discover the cause of it, let us first find out how the jealousy is being defined .

The general definition of it is mostly referred to the thoughts of being insecure, accompanied with fear, and the common concern over a relative lack of possessions whether material or physical.

Jealousy is a cause of many kinds of emotions as it includes, love, hate, anger, inadequacy, disgust, envy, and inferiority complex.

Science has also found out another definition which describe it as, “ a complex emotion which surrounds the feelings from fear of abandonment, separation, and humiliation.

Nowadays it becomes the biggest psychological problems in both men and women on how to deal with jealousy in a relationship.

What are its hidden causes?

It’s not the question of why you are jealous, because you are not creating it, for it is the anxiety, worries, doubts, that is robbing you of your peace and happiness.

What is unclear in here is the reason why you have such feelings within yourself.

Some jealousy is having some logical reason but some are having no reasons at all.

The reason behind it all is hidden on what we feel is the cause, and what if we are just mistaken on what we are thinking?

So we are only wasting our worries and efforts on a wrong notion and conception of the situation.

Sometimes our jealousy is just triggered from a very small thing like the unanswered text, suspicion without a proof, and a doubt without the possibility to be true.

You must be wise and practical enough, if you would like to avoid the tension and misery that jealousy may bring to your relationship.

So the more you understand why there is such feeling as that, is the more you can effectively avoid and overcome and then you can be guided in moving forward and towards the direction of a happy relationship which is what you wanted to have.

Who moved us to feel jealous?

There is a mystery behind every jealousy, but most of it specially those that have no reasons are injected in our brain by our enemy the devil just so that insecurity will develop and will cause bad to the supposed to be happy relationship.

So jealousy is of two kinds, one is good, and it is the one that is so concerned and anxious specially when the partner, spouse or anyone in a relationship is not coming home to the usual expected time of arrival, it’s however not unusual for the one who really cares, for he can’t afford losing and finding another one to love.

The person who loves so much is so anxious waiting and because he’s not happy for it he is misinterpreted as a jealous one but actually it’s only because of his extreme love and affection that’s why he acted in that way.

The other kind is the one that is really a jealousy from thinking of something that happened which is sometimes true and sometimes without the truth and reality.

How will I overcome this feeling?

If you wish to overcome jealousy, you need to be open-minded, you need to learn to socialize and understand that not all you think is true, not all your suspicion are reality unless it’s proven with the fact and proof.

You need to broaden your mind in accepting, and keeping along well with every situation.

Try to share you feelings and doubts to someone whom you trust so that there is somebody who can be with you and find out what really is happening around.

By expressing yourself to your confidant, and by sharing what you have actually felt will be a big relief in your feelings of jealousy.

It’s actually normal to be jealous of another person for a while, but once you make it real even though not, you are only torturing yourself for nothing.

It is a huge impact to your life when you are heavily effected by jealousy, which is in other way will truly wear your life down into agony.

In order to overcome jealousy you need to move on with a life which is full of hope and trust with your partner, spouse, etc.,

Is jealousy good or bad?

Jealousy is good as long as it is kept under your own control and it should remain within the limits of common sense, and if it is in this way, this is the kind of jealousy which is a good sign that there is someone who really cares for you.

Jealousy can be a proof of true love to your partner, but when it is uncontrollable, it will make you become obsessive, and it will affect your whole being and will have a serious consequences in your relationship.

Many cases nowadays regarding this matter, had caused a lot of relationships to be ended up unreasonably.

Every time we love someone, we will always feel a little jealousy, which proved it that your love is not for fun but true.

A partner who never feel even a little jealousy has something wrong with his feelings towards you because it’s just normal to feel that way by the one who really cares.

Jealous partner are sensitive with their feelings, therefore, most of them are also trying to avoid making you feel the same, so if they are conscious enough they will not do something which make you feel jealous for they know how it feels to be jealous.

It is the jealousy that will inspire and motivate them to take special care of themselves, they will become so caring and loving in order to make something different so that no one else can compete with them and the partner can obviously see the comparison between you and them, and no competitor will dare to attempt grabbing your partner away.

In a relationship in which both partners are a jealous type, as long as not to reach to the point of obsession, and possessiveness, they will have a longer and even happier and harmoniously living together.

What Causes Jealousy in Relationships?

Most of the time, we are confused about love with the obsession which is controlling everything at every way.

Jealousy in a relationship is the kind of feeling which is making the person feel insecure, it can normally be by both persons.

It is the idea and thinking that once you are in the relationship, you already have the full right of each other which is supposed to be right but not all partners are having the same way of understanding about their individual right of each other.

But no matter what kind of relationship they are having, no matter how close and sweet they are for each other, there is still no assurance if they really belong to each other until they can be proven living together until they grow old and die.

The devil of extreme jealousy is the mind that always think that their partner is more beautiful than them, and more attractive than they are.

So for thinking of this, they will start to develop a sense of self insecurity, then they will feel afraid that their partner will find another one much better than them.

Therefore, they will feel some unreasonable jealousy which is sometimes right but mostly wrong, if the partner is really doing it, it’s okay but what if not, then you are only teaching him to do it for you, because are jealous without a proof and you are only allowing it to be the cause of a big trouble within your relationship.

The problem with jealous people is that they are thinking of not being good enough for their partner and therefore, they created a feeling which become more suspicious and obsessive.

But the main cause of them all, is the mistrust in themselves and the insecurity that they feel in a relationship.

People with some sorts of negative experiences in a close relationship, tend to fear that they might be experiencing the same heart ache again, and so they feel that they can’t manage anymore to the next time when if it will happen again, so the anxieties and worries are some of the big factors why there is jealousy in a relationship.

Base on what is being discussed in this article, jealousy in a relationship is often caused by “lack of self-confidence, lack of self-esteem, and most of all being dubious and suspicious.”

This delusion is causing a feeling of severe fear of being abandoned or changed with another better one.

There are many types of jealousy, but the most common one which is experienced by most people, are those categorized and classified in three ways.

The first one is the “suspicious jealousy,” where in this kind of feelings the partner is triggered when they see them closely talking and sometimes even flirting with another one which is also not good to happen, for no partner will be happy seeing them flirting with another one.

The second one is the so called “reactive jealousy,” where in this situation the partner deserve to be suspected and felt jealous because he previously cheated and therefore, the partner will naturally feel jealous out of sometimes no reasons because of mistrust.

So the third one is the “pathological jealousy,” where in this kind the partner is so obsessive and possessive, people with this feeling is always hallucinating and the minds and thoughts are being controlled by the wrong emotions which will sometimes lead to being insane. They will become irrational, violent, stressful which will affect to the psychological health, like blood pressure, heart rate will increase, social relationship will become different and the persons themselves will become sensitive to small matters, and so the whole being is affected and it’s not good for the partner’s well-being.

Then this can all affect to the attitude and behavior towards the partner, because the imaginary scenarios are magnified by suspicion and it will look like a reality.

Once you know that you are a jealous person, is the step forward to being able to overcome it.

Since jealousy can also be a state of mind, it can also be hereditary, although a little hard to believe.

Actually, there is nothing wrong with jealousy, as long as it is reasonable because a partner who truly loves is normally jealous, but jealous with love.

Unreasonable jealousy is actually not of God, but jealousy out of real love started from God for he is the first one who felt it, so the idea of it all is originated from God.

Exodus 20:25 you shall not bow down to them nor serve them. For I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children to the third and fourth generations of those who hate Me,

God who is the creator of us all, are expecting for us to worship and thank to the only living God, then if we worship other gods he will feel jealous because he is a jealous God.

Exodus 34:14 (for you shall worship no other god, for the Lord, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God),

2 Corinthians 11:2 For I am jealous for you with godly jealousy. For I have betrothed you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ.

With all the verses above taken from the bible, is clearly stating that jealousy is originated from the feelings of God which is called godly jealousy.

God has the full right to feel jealous for he is the creator of us all and we are expected to serve and worship only to him the living God, and once we serve to someone else other than our creator then God who is our creator and the owner of us all will feel jealous with a godly jealousy.

So the feeling of jealousy, in a relationship is not bad because it is however the sign of a real and true love, but if we feel in this way without any reason at all is a different story.

Irrespective of the causes of why we feel jealous in a relationship, the good thing to know is that there is always a cure of it, and the signs that you are almost healed by this kind of sickness is when you are aware of it, so every time you feel jealous and then you can control it by not reacting negatively towards it, then it’s a sure sign that you have almost overcome it and the jealousy that you feel is fully understandable.

I hope you learn something about jealousy in relationship, and if you have any questions or comments, feel free to write them below and I will be more than happy to hear it.

Francisco

Founder of Bookworm Website or https://franciscorondinalaurito.com

Before we go to the biblical insight about marriage, let’s first have to look at the point of view of humanity towards it.

Everyone’s dream is to find a partner who can be together and live happily ever after or for life.

There is never a person whose dream is just for a short while but everybody wants it that way or if maybe there are few but the majority are on the side of dreaming to have a partner who will stay together as long as alive.

Most people who have experienced such way are claiming to be a lucky ones because of enjoying a lifelong relationship with a happy marriage.

However, it didn’t happen for many couples just for the simple reasons that they lack the necessary thing who is the main reason why some marriages are lasting for long and even for life.

The only problem is that there is nobody who teaches them the way to have a loving marriages, that’s why parents who have a loving and harmonious relationship, they are a big factor to be the  best model for their children when they have already their own relationship.

It is indeed a bigger advantage for people who had been from families with happy marriages because what they see are normally what they will do for their own relationship.

So even when an unavoidable circumstances occur they know how to minimize the chances of broken marriages and save it.

There are words that need to avoid mentioning whenever partners or couples are not in good terms.

This is the most common ones which is composed by just two words but it’s as deadly as thousand sorrows in a relationship which is the phrase: “It’s over.” That started with, ” So what?”

If you really love each other, you can’t afford ruining your relation by just a small and useless things, because you need to consider the rest of the days when you were together living happily with each other.

Conflict and misunderstanding is so common in a relationship, if you only knew how to act and react in the right way, you can save many relationships.

Marriage is a commitment tied with a promise, so as long as you can keep your promise the binding of your relationship will be kept tightened when you pay respect of your togetherness.

Living together for a year is not a short one, and must be considered when difficult times will come, and you should respect this by not ruining it by just a minute of misunderstanding.

What happened to some people is that, when they encounter some challenges with their companionship, they were so impatient to resolve the cause of it, nevertheless they right away conclude and blame their relationship that they don’t belong to each other, instead of settling it down and look for the best solution of the problem.

So why there are many break ups in a relationship, it’s because they don’t communicate, they don’t ask for solution, they right away conclude, they right away decide, without even thinking that it hurts the people who love them like their own family.

You should not make a permanent decision for your temporary emotion.

Let us root out the bible’s law about marriage separation and marrying again, and what is marriage biblically?

Even though the agreement in a relationship is just by men’s way only, so let’s not include God here yet.

You have an agreement between each other to live together like husband and wife by your own decision, and promising to each other to love faithfully and live together as couple.

It’s already a very strong foundation of faith in love, even if you have never been married yet by anyone who are qualified to officiate a wedding, so it is still already a strong foundation of relationship.

Let’s read some biblical support about it in:

Galatians 3:15 Brethren, I speak after the manner of men: Though it be but a man’s covenant, yet when it hath been confirmed, no one maketh it void, or addeth thereto.

So if the covenant or agreement even if it’s man made, so not including God, but only between 2 persons if it’s confirmed and agreed and ratified, it cannot be changed anymore, it can’t be voided anymore. So same with the agreement in verbal loans or borrowing of money, even though there are no witnesses once you signed a contract, because of your trust for each other, it’s already enough proof that you have a strong agreement  as an obligation to be paid notwithstanding of the presence of any witnesses.

So whenever you violate the agreement, you will come out sinning against it, because it was ratified by your consent through signing it.

So it’s the same with the covenant between man and woman, even though it’s just you and you without including God, as human being we have to respect each other, if you have agreed, it’s already a binding of your covenant.

Let’s have an example about Mary and Joseph, they were not yet married but they were considered by God as husband and wife.

Matthew 1:18-20  Now the birth of Jesus Christ was on this wise: When as his mother Mary was espoused to Joseph, before they came together, she was found with child of the Holy Ghost.

In this verse it is said that Mary was espoused to Joseph, meaning they were not yet married when Mary was pregnant, they were only boyfriend and girlfriend, in other words engaged.

They didn’t live together yet, because they were not yet married, but Joseph has found her to be pregnant, so what Joseph is planning now? Let’s continue the verse:

19 And her husband Joseph, being a just man and unwilling to put her to shame, resolved to divorce her quietly.

²⁰ But as he considered these things, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream, saying, “Joseph, son of David, do not fear to take Mary as your wife, for that which is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit.

In the verse above it is saying that even though they are not yet living together as husband and wife because they were not married by any official yet to conduct a wedding, Joseph was already told to fear not to take unto him Mary his wife.

So even if their engagement is just by their own, it was already strong and recognized by God as a valid engagement which equivalent to husband and wife.

Let’s read again another instance in the bible that God called them couple even though they were not married officially by any qualified one to officiate a wedding.

John 4:9-19 Please read the whole verses below because I will only go straight to the verse where I can prove you from the bible that marriage officiated by anyone on earth was not only the basis for considering them couple, here is the supporting verse from the book of,

John 4:15-19 The woman said to Him, “Sir, give me this water, that I may not thirst, nor come here to draw.”

¹⁶ Jesus said to her, “Go, call your husband, and come here.”

¹⁷ The woman answered and said, “I have no husband.”

Jesus said to her, “You have well said, ‘I have no husband,’ ¹⁸ for you have had five husbands, and the one whom you now have is not your husband; in that you spoke truly.”

¹⁹ The woman said to Him, “Sir, I perceive that You are a prophet. 

Even they were only engaged the angel who brought the message was telling him, “ Fear not to take Mary as your wife.”

That is what Paul said in:

 Galatians 3:15 Brethren, I speak after the manner of men: Though it be but a man’s covenant, yet when it hath been confirmed, no one maketh it void, or addeth thereto.

Therefore, even if it’s just a covenant between man and woman, once you find another one you will be charged by God as adulterer because he recognized your relationship as husband and wife already.

If you have a partner even though your not married, don’t make it an excuse that you’re still free and single because you’re not yet married, the covenant between you and your partner is already counted and recognized by God as a valid and strong foundation the same as married couple.

But in case, you have been in a relationship but it did not work out and then you’ve met another partner which is now your new ones, as long as you had done it out of ignorance of the law of God, as long as it happened when you didn’t know exactly the righteousness of God, as long as you are not under the law of Christ, If you are in the wrong faith, and you have not known the whole doctrine of Christ, all those sins can be forgiven through baptism, just like what happened to Paul in his former life:

1 Timothy 1:13 who was before a blasphemer, and a persecutor, and injurious: but I obtained mercy, because I did it ignorantly in unbelief.

Paul obtained mercy, even though he was been a wicked, but he received mercy because he did it all ignorantly and unbelief.

So even if you have been engaged once, twice, thrice, etc. once you reformed and be baptized all those transgressions will be forgiven, for you had done it out of ignorance and being faithless or you don’t know the law yet.

Romans 3:19 Now we know that whatever the law says, it says to those who are under the law, so that every mouth may be silenced, and all the world may become accountable to God.

What the law said are for those who are under the law, and if you are not under the law, you have a big chance of obtaining forgiveness.

And that is how the bible is speaking about relationship with marriage or without, separated or marrying again.

I hope you have learnt something from this article, and if you have any questions or suggestions, they are all welcome and I will be happy to read them.

Francisco,

Founder of the https://franciscorondinalaurito.com
or Bookworm website.

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